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<blockquote data-quote="envisablepuppet" data-source="post: 59680" data-attributes="member: 585"><p>Hi Mikey,</p><p></p><p>Believe me when I say I feel your pain. My husband and I have been going through this hot cold thing for years now. Sometimes I don't know which is more stressful, the bad choices my difficult child makes or the hostile atmosphere I have come to expect when I come through the door most of the time. It has gotten so bad, I just don't want to come home. All I want is some peace in my family and to have a family left when all is said and done.</p><p></p><p>Our difficult child has come so very far we both hate to turn her out at this point because we both know it would be a bad idea. The things we are struggling with right now are the small things. Regardless of all the progress she has made she is still a difficult child. husband can't tolerate the little things. He is the type that wants to control everything around him and is stubborn to the bone. She is exactly like him. That's the problem.</p><p></p><p>difficult child is very intelligent with very immature thinking skills. She means well but still just doesn't get it. She is about four years behind her peer group. She still makes some very bad choices. Most of her bad choices revolve around being responsible. When it comes to her job she is but anything else...</p><p></p><p>You still have a long way to go with your son and loving a child and trying to keep them on the right track can sometimes seem impossible. It's hard, your torn. You know what you should do but when it's time to do it you find yourself not able to do what you need to do and instead try to fix them yet again.</p><p></p><p>It seems like my husband and I constantly bounce this ball back and forth. Right now the ball is in his court. We have come to a point with our daughter to where we do do what we can live with. Not so much her but us. If we can't sleep at night or get through the day because of the stress and worry for the well-being of our difficult child we try to eliminate it. She is here at home with us for this reason. It's about 50/50 what the day will bring.</p><p></p><p>The struggle right now is trying to help her learn to be independent and not completely ruin her life at the same time. Right now if she left she would sink. She just has no clue. She knows what she needs to do but at the same time can't seem to follow through. I'm sure our methods of dealing with her would not be very popular to most parents but we can sleep at night. If you knew our background like some here do, you'd know what I mean by that.</p><p></p><p>We are a family of three. To lose even one part of it would be devastating to all of us. I could go on and on about the changes our family has gone through but that would mean another chapter and this one is long enough lol.</p><p></p><p>I hope you and your wife can get to a place where you can work things out in a way that you can both live with. husband and I are still trying to get to that place. Tonight he lays down the law again to difficult child. She may be out the door. Can we live with this? We shall see.</p><p></p><p>Hope things get better for you</p><p></p><p>Lea</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="envisablepuppet, post: 59680, member: 585"] Hi Mikey, Believe me when I say I feel your pain. My husband and I have been going through this hot cold thing for years now. Sometimes I don't know which is more stressful, the bad choices my difficult child makes or the hostile atmosphere I have come to expect when I come through the door most of the time. It has gotten so bad, I just don't want to come home. All I want is some peace in my family and to have a family left when all is said and done. Our difficult child has come so very far we both hate to turn her out at this point because we both know it would be a bad idea. The things we are struggling with right now are the small things. Regardless of all the progress she has made she is still a difficult child. husband can't tolerate the little things. He is the type that wants to control everything around him and is stubborn to the bone. She is exactly like him. That's the problem. difficult child is very intelligent with very immature thinking skills. She means well but still just doesn't get it. She is about four years behind her peer group. She still makes some very bad choices. Most of her bad choices revolve around being responsible. When it comes to her job she is but anything else... You still have a long way to go with your son and loving a child and trying to keep them on the right track can sometimes seem impossible. It's hard, your torn. You know what you should do but when it's time to do it you find yourself not able to do what you need to do and instead try to fix them yet again. It seems like my husband and I constantly bounce this ball back and forth. Right now the ball is in his court. We have come to a point with our daughter to where we do do what we can live with. Not so much her but us. If we can't sleep at night or get through the day because of the stress and worry for the well-being of our difficult child we try to eliminate it. She is here at home with us for this reason. It's about 50/50 what the day will bring. The struggle right now is trying to help her learn to be independent and not completely ruin her life at the same time. Right now if she left she would sink. She just has no clue. She knows what she needs to do but at the same time can't seem to follow through. I'm sure our methods of dealing with her would not be very popular to most parents but we can sleep at night. If you knew our background like some here do, you'd know what I mean by that. We are a family of three. To lose even one part of it would be devastating to all of us. I could go on and on about the changes our family has gone through but that would mean another chapter and this one is long enough lol. I hope you and your wife can get to a place where you can work things out in a way that you can both live with. husband and I are still trying to get to that place. Tonight he lays down the law again to difficult child. She may be out the door. Can we live with this? We shall see. Hope things get better for you Lea [/QUOTE]
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