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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 60099" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Marg, I think it's different in Austrailia. I could be wrong, but don't people automatically get supports if they need them? Also, in the US many, many "odd" people walk around in cities homeless and become victims. I'm not sure if it's like that in Australia, but it sure is here. Thus, at least for my son (he is not mentally ill, but has some cognitive troubles and real social deficits) it's best to plan, and he will be better off with someone looking in on him. I don't feel he'll need to be herded like a sheep, but he'll not only be better off, but more secure with supports. He needs somebody to direct him on what to do. I hope he can learn to drive. If not, he'll need help getting places. As for how he manages money--he lives in the present. He has always been that way. Ive never been able to teach him the concept of saving. My goal for Lucas is to make him happy, safe and productive, however that has to be. I think sometimes "independence" isn't always something our difficult child's really want. That may be what YOUR kids want--I'm sure you know your kids well--but I'm pretty certain that my son will be a nervous wreck if he is left completely on his own. Yet he doesn't need group home type care either. So in the US, we start planning the future for our kids at around fourteen in most states. Would be interested to know (just out of curiousity) how other countries handle adults with special needs :smile:</p><p>Sameold, I feel for you. But, trust me, my son doesn't have endless possibilities. Although he has a normal IQ, he is way behind his peers academically and will likely work a repetitious job that Social Services finds for him. We have a good workshop out here. I wish he had endless possibilities, but he doesn't, and he doesn't care...lol. Therefore, he's always going to be a little childlike, I think (at least that's how it looks now) and he will appreciate having his life directed for him. He can only live a full life if somebody structures it for him. It would be chaos if he tried to do it alone. In fact, if left alone, I think he'd do nothing except play videogames and watch television, collect disability, and maybe become a total hermit. He would never be able to handle money enough to pay rent. I shudder thinking about him out there on his own--he'd become homeless and, he's so naive, victimized. Unless he does a 180 degree turn, and I doubt it, he's not going to be a good candidate to live completely on his own, nor would he want to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 60099, member: 1550"] Marg, I think it's different in Austrailia. I could be wrong, but don't people automatically get supports if they need them? Also, in the US many, many "odd" people walk around in cities homeless and become victims. I'm not sure if it's like that in Australia, but it sure is here. Thus, at least for my son (he is not mentally ill, but has some cognitive troubles and real social deficits) it's best to plan, and he will be better off with someone looking in on him. I don't feel he'll need to be herded like a sheep, but he'll not only be better off, but more secure with supports. He needs somebody to direct him on what to do. I hope he can learn to drive. If not, he'll need help getting places. As for how he manages money--he lives in the present. He has always been that way. Ive never been able to teach him the concept of saving. My goal for Lucas is to make him happy, safe and productive, however that has to be. I think sometimes "independence" isn't always something our difficult child's really want. That may be what YOUR kids want--I'm sure you know your kids well--but I'm pretty certain that my son will be a nervous wreck if he is left completely on his own. Yet he doesn't need group home type care either. So in the US, we start planning the future for our kids at around fourteen in most states. Would be interested to know (just out of curiousity) how other countries handle adults with special needs [img]:smile:[/img] Sameold, I feel for you. But, trust me, my son doesn't have endless possibilities. Although he has a normal IQ, he is way behind his peers academically and will likely work a repetitious job that Social Services finds for him. We have a good workshop out here. I wish he had endless possibilities, but he doesn't, and he doesn't care...lol. Therefore, he's always going to be a little childlike, I think (at least that's how it looks now) and he will appreciate having his life directed for him. He can only live a full life if somebody structures it for him. It would be chaos if he tried to do it alone. In fact, if left alone, I think he'd do nothing except play videogames and watch television, collect disability, and maybe become a total hermit. He would never be able to handle money enough to pay rent. I shudder thinking about him out there on his own--he'd become homeless and, he's so naive, victimized. Unless he does a 180 degree turn, and I doubt it, he's not going to be a good candidate to live completely on his own, nor would he want to. [/QUOTE]
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