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I agree Cedar, to release judgment IS a real gift. Easy to understand, in theory. Incredibly challenging to put into practice.

Maybe that's why nlj is able to say she loves her children, without condition. She said she gave up judging her son's lifestyle.

Isn't it interesting as mothers, we can get to that with much less effort with our children.

With our mothers, significant others, siblings, "friends", we find it so much more difficult to give up the judgment.

The price we pay is that we are only able to love them (or not love them) on OUR terms.

I am keenly aware that the biggest barrier to loving other people is ME, and the judgment I continue to hang on to.

So sad to me how we push love away, and go through this life living "half way"...all because we don't want to risk being betrayed, dismissed and abandoned....again. :not_fair:


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