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<blockquote data-quote="tiredmommy" data-source="post: 283400" data-attributes="member: 1722"><p>Star... I grew up with neglectful parents. We lived in squalid conditions. My parents were hopelessly broken people that weren't capable of guiding or directing my brother or me. We weren't abused, mind you, and that may be the difference. My brother and I both have our fair share of problems related to our childhood but we didn't turn out to be neglectful or abusive parents. Our parents didn't guide us but others did. Aunts, uncles, grandparents, clergy, teachers, neighbors, parents of friends. We each had different people step in and show us right from wrong and how to function in the world. </p><p> </p><p>*My bff's mom taught me how to clean, cook and do laundry between the ages of 8 & 10... so we wouldn't have to have tv dinners nightly and there would be clean dishes, clean laundry and the trash taken out. </p><p> </p><p>*My third grade teacher told me that the world was full of poor, dirty children that were going nowhere in their life and it was up to me to change that about myself. </p><p> </p><p>*My first boyfriend's mom told me that I would not always live at home with my father and that things would get better (she also taught me the proper way to set a table). </p><p> </p><p>*My aunt told me I could do great things when I grew up, no matter where I came from. She also told me that my parents' problems were not my fault and were not mine to worry about.</p><p> </p><p>These are just a few of the many, many interventions I had throughout my childhood. I believe they helped me to see past my immediate circumstances and made me more resilient. It makes me wonder why these people didn't have the same in their childhood.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tiredmommy, post: 283400, member: 1722"] Star... I grew up with neglectful parents. We lived in squalid conditions. My parents were hopelessly broken people that weren't capable of guiding or directing my brother or me. We weren't abused, mind you, and that may be the difference. My brother and I both have our fair share of problems related to our childhood but we didn't turn out to be neglectful or abusive parents. Our parents didn't guide us but others did. Aunts, uncles, grandparents, clergy, teachers, neighbors, parents of friends. We each had different people step in and show us right from wrong and how to function in the world. *My bff's mom taught me how to clean, cook and do laundry between the ages of 8 & 10... so we wouldn't have to have tv dinners nightly and there would be clean dishes, clean laundry and the trash taken out. *My third grade teacher told me that the world was full of poor, dirty children that were going nowhere in their life and it was up to me to change that about myself. *My first boyfriend's mom told me that I would not always live at home with my father and that things would get better (she also taught me the proper way to set a table). *My aunt told me I could do great things when I grew up, no matter where I came from. She also told me that my parents' problems were not my fault and were not mine to worry about. These are just a few of the many, many interventions I had throughout my childhood. I believe they helped me to see past my immediate circumstances and made me more resilient. It makes me wonder why these people didn't have the same in their childhood. [/QUOTE]
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