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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 283597" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Ya know what? You guys are great. I am so proud to be part of this board. I love all of the different, well-thought-out points of view.</p><p> </p><p>There are so many people who hurt their children. Psychological abuse is almost worse because the physical goes away, it fades (I'm bypassing the residual psychological scars from physical abuse, bear with me here)... but the emotional damage... Well.</p><p> </p><p>The worst part of it all is that CPS can't, or won't, do much (especially to a mother, sorry, guys but it's true) if there's no physical proof. Never mind that the child is terrified, crying, has physiological symptoms... If there's no bruise, the accused smiles and lies and the investigation is closed. (<Actual happening> Child: Mom punched me in the head! Mother: I wouldn't do a thing like that. CPS Worker: OK, she said she didn't do it, we're closing it as unfounded.)</p><p> </p><p>I posted in another thread about the most likely person, statistically, to abuse a child is the biological mother's partner. Next up is biodad's partner, then mom, and finally dad. Now that's not every case, but the numbers point that out. But we hear about biodad in the media more than anything else.</p><p> </p><p>I'm not saying it's right. Any abuse is wrong. I can understand the <em>urge</em> to do it, but when a person gives in to the urge... We're the adults, we are supposed to be able to control ourselves.</p><p> </p><p>I don't care if he was abused. That's not a reason, it's an <em>excuse</em>.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 283597, member: 6705"] Ya know what? You guys are great. I am so proud to be part of this board. I love all of the different, well-thought-out points of view. There are so many people who hurt their children. Psychological abuse is almost worse because the physical goes away, it fades (I'm bypassing the residual psychological scars from physical abuse, bear with me here)... but the emotional damage... Well. The worst part of it all is that CPS can't, or won't, do much (especially to a mother, sorry, guys but it's true) if there's no physical proof. Never mind that the child is terrified, crying, has physiological symptoms... If there's no bruise, the accused smiles and lies and the investigation is closed. (<Actual happening> Child: Mom punched me in the head! Mother: I wouldn't do a thing like that. CPS Worker: OK, she said she didn't do it, we're closing it as unfounded.) I posted in another thread about the most likely person, statistically, to abuse a child is the biological mother's partner. Next up is biodad's partner, then mom, and finally dad. Now that's not every case, but the numbers point that out. But we hear about biodad in the media more than anything else. I'm not saying it's right. Any abuse is wrong. I can understand the [I]urge[/I] to do it, but when a person gives in to the urge... We're the adults, we are supposed to be able to control ourselves. I don't care if he was abused. That's not a reason, it's an [I]excuse[/I]. [/QUOTE]
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