I had the police here for about an hour last night and had my computer on as they requested when gfgd boyfriend sent an instant message....my account is set to private so the only way he had it was gfgd...and it was just as ugly as his email...I let the police officer read it and they copied it over to their laptop....boyfriend is being charged wtih uttering a death threat not only against me but against my two yr old son as well.
According to the officer, they have had several run-ins with this boy....they have also had two visits with gfgd for truancy and mischief(throwing condoms and personal lubricant bottles into a mall foodcourt)...no charges against her but next time she won't be so lucky.
I am also having a restraining order against both of them and the home....it's gone a long way with the police that I have honored a verbal agreement not to visit, send letters or call(thank goodness I took all your advice on that one ladies!)...the order will include protecttion for my other two daughters as well...
The officer told me that sometimes you have to play hardball with your own kids in order for them to get the message that you have to be a decent person to get along in this world. He went on to say that his own son left home at 15 and made his life as a dad and an officer a living you know what for a long time....until son got thrown in jail for burglary and dad didn't help out that time. He said it took a while but his son finally "woke up" and is now a good guy with his own landscaping business....
This officer seemed so nice and caring....he stayed for a while after coming back and letting me know boyfriend was picked up and we chatted for a bit. It really helped that he willingly listened and let me cry....
Carolanne
