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<blockquote data-quote="Coookie" data-source="post: 119111" data-attributes="member: 1587"><p>My Goodness... <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p></p><p>This is how we are handling it at the Coookie house since difficult child has come back. We are a family, he is part of that family and as part of this family we all let each other know when we are going to be late or whatever. difficult child is 19, has been on his own (back and forth) and I still think that husband and I have a right to know if he will be gone all night or not. Just common courtesy in my view. When he does let me know if he will be gone all night, or he is not sure, I do not react negatively. I tell him to be careful and sometimes I worry silently, or not. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>I don't approach it so much as a rule of the house but as just something that a family does. I do know that in the past my reaction has had a lot to do with his compliance. I have found myself at times worrying about what he might be doing... might is the operative word here... useless worry to me. If, and when, he does get back into alcohol/drugs then husband and I will deal with that as we can but so far he has not.</p><p></p><p>No answers for you... sorry... just what is working for us right now... and we all know how quickly those things can change. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p></p><p>Just my '02. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Hugs</p><p></p><p>Wanted to add that difficult child is currently, possibly, going to be working full time which differs from your situation but when we live together in this house, we are family, no matter what the age and with families there has to be common consideration. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Coookie, post: 119111, member: 1587"] My Goodness... :( This is how we are handling it at the Coookie house since difficult child has come back. We are a family, he is part of that family and as part of this family we all let each other know when we are going to be late or whatever. difficult child is 19, has been on his own (back and forth) and I still think that husband and I have a right to know if he will be gone all night or not. Just common courtesy in my view. When he does let me know if he will be gone all night, or he is not sure, I do not react negatively. I tell him to be careful and sometimes I worry silently, or not. :) I don't approach it so much as a rule of the house but as just something that a family does. I do know that in the past my reaction has had a lot to do with his compliance. I have found myself at times worrying about what he might be doing... might is the operative word here... useless worry to me. If, and when, he does get back into alcohol/drugs then husband and I will deal with that as we can but so far he has not. No answers for you... sorry... just what is working for us right now... and we all know how quickly those things can change. :( Just my '02. :) Hugs Wanted to add that difficult child is currently, possibly, going to be working full time which differs from your situation but when we live together in this house, we are family, no matter what the age and with families there has to be common consideration. :) [/QUOTE]
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