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<blockquote data-quote="SunnyFlorida" data-source="post: 119293" data-attributes="member: 696"><p>Well......</p><p>Haven't been around for a while but boy...what a time to jump back in <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />. Don't know wher those little smiley's went so...made my own.</p><p></p><p>CAMom, sorry hon, sounds like you're trying not to make waves and keep peace in your family by using some sort of win:win situation. Sorry....not buying it.</p><p></p><p>With me....it's a "seeing thing".</p><p></p><p>If one is at college (doin' what their supposed to be doin') then where and when they go is their business.</p><p></p><p>If one is "sharing expenses" at my house and is on equal footing ie pays his share of utilities, own medical own auto insurance, is working/going to school...you get the idea...then I'd say they can come and go as they please.</p><p></p><p>But...if you are paying for his upkeep and will be claiming him on your income tax forms then he is to abide by your rules which say call or text by 11:30 if you are not coming home. As a penalty, why don't you just take away the car or the $$$...pretty simple to me. Start removing things from his room again. Make it uncomfortable for him to live there.</p><p></p><p>If he needs surgery and you're planning on allowing him your home to recover and then the plan is school or work....I can see where it would be reasonable for him to continue staying there.</p><p></p><p>Another solution is get him an apartment for xx number of months and minimal living expenses. He'll either make or break it.</p><p></p><p>I'm thinking he's bamboozling you all again and in our greatest desire for peace and family...another one of these decisions has to come up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SunnyFlorida, post: 119293, member: 696"] Well...... Haven't been around for a while but boy...what a time to jump back in :). Don't know wher those little smiley's went so...made my own. CAMom, sorry hon, sounds like you're trying not to make waves and keep peace in your family by using some sort of win:win situation. Sorry....not buying it. With me....it's a "seeing thing". If one is at college (doin' what their supposed to be doin') then where and when they go is their business. If one is "sharing expenses" at my house and is on equal footing ie pays his share of utilities, own medical own auto insurance, is working/going to school...you get the idea...then I'd say they can come and go as they please. But...if you are paying for his upkeep and will be claiming him on your income tax forms then he is to abide by your rules which say call or text by 11:30 if you are not coming home. As a penalty, why don't you just take away the car or the $$$...pretty simple to me. Start removing things from his room again. Make it uncomfortable for him to live there. If he needs surgery and you're planning on allowing him your home to recover and then the plan is school or work....I can see where it would be reasonable for him to continue staying there. Another solution is get him an apartment for xx number of months and minimal living expenses. He'll either make or break it. I'm thinking he's bamboozling you all again and in our greatest desire for peace and family...another one of these decisions has to come up. [/QUOTE]
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