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<blockquote data-quote="SearchingForRainbows" data-source="post: 400894" data-attributes="member: 3388"><p>Terry,</p><p></p><p>Reading what you wrote about your difficult child being so bright, yet lacking motivation and refusing to do the work, sounds so much like difficult child 1. Like your difficult child, difficult child 1 did really well if he felt like it, otherwise as long as he passed he was happy. His report cards went from A's to F's depending on the subject and whether or not he liked the teacher. </p><p></p><p>No matter how hard we tried to explain to him why grades are important, no matter what consequences there were for not turning in work, etc., difficult child 1 didn't care. Finally, we listened to his therapist and let the school handle school issues and we stuck with the ones at home. Eventually, after he graduated high school and couldn't get into the colleges of his choice, he realized he should have put more effort into his studies. Nothing like natural consequences and a healthy dose of reality, lol...!!!</p><p></p><p>Two rules we gave difficult child 1 after he repeatedly tried to stay home by pretending to be sick was that if he was too sick to go to school then there were absolutely no electronics, period. He had to stay in his room except for meals because he needed to get lots of sleep. We also told him that if he was too sick to go to school, then he would have to be checked by his doctor. After we gave him these rules, difficult child 1 actually preferred school to staying home. </p><p></p><p>On a brighter note, I'm really happy your husband now recognizes how hard it is to take care of your difficult child!!! Nothing works as well as putting our husband's right into the middle of the battle field so they can fully experience GFGdom at it's absolute best, lol...!!!</p><p></p><p>Like Janet, I'm also concerned about the constant verbal abuse, etc... Believe me, they grow quickly!!! difficult child 1 was over 6' before he graduated high school. Hope the therapist appointment is helpful!!! </p><p></p><p>Thinking of you... SFR</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SearchingForRainbows, post: 400894, member: 3388"] Terry, Reading what you wrote about your difficult child being so bright, yet lacking motivation and refusing to do the work, sounds so much like difficult child 1. Like your difficult child, difficult child 1 did really well if he felt like it, otherwise as long as he passed he was happy. His report cards went from A's to F's depending on the subject and whether or not he liked the teacher. No matter how hard we tried to explain to him why grades are important, no matter what consequences there were for not turning in work, etc., difficult child 1 didn't care. Finally, we listened to his therapist and let the school handle school issues and we stuck with the ones at home. Eventually, after he graduated high school and couldn't get into the colleges of his choice, he realized he should have put more effort into his studies. Nothing like natural consequences and a healthy dose of reality, lol...!!! Two rules we gave difficult child 1 after he repeatedly tried to stay home by pretending to be sick was that if he was too sick to go to school then there were absolutely no electronics, period. He had to stay in his room except for meals because he needed to get lots of sleep. We also told him that if he was too sick to go to school, then he would have to be checked by his doctor. After we gave him these rules, difficult child 1 actually preferred school to staying home. On a brighter note, I'm really happy your husband now recognizes how hard it is to take care of your difficult child!!! Nothing works as well as putting our husband's right into the middle of the battle field so they can fully experience GFGdom at it's absolute best, lol...!!! Like Janet, I'm also concerned about the constant verbal abuse, etc... Believe me, they grow quickly!!! difficult child 1 was over 6' before he graduated high school. Hope the therapist appointment is helpful!!! Thinking of you... SFR [/QUOTE]
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