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update on 22 year old bipolar who is difficult to live with
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 606893" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Good job MrMike! You've quite successfully walked through the latest mine field. Good work! Each step of the way, treacherous as it is for us, is a <u><strong>huge</strong></u> victory, not <em>at all</em> a small victory. We all must learn to pat ourselves on the back for these steps, they are outrageously difficult and tear our hearts right out of our chests. Do not minimize this and simply move onto the next drama, let yourself really get what you went through to come to this decision.................you won a GREAT victory fighting your natural instincts to protect and keep your son safe...........</p><p></p><p>Each step is a victory which has to be acknowledges in order to build on whatever the next step is. It is FAR too easy for us to not acknowledge the intense level of re-learning, shifting our parental gears, facing our fears, dealing with our disappointments and sorrow...............no one except those in the trenches with you, NOT EVEN your therapist, really gets the magnitude of this for us, the parents............ What we go through, what we have to let go of, what our losses and suffering is............. you did great. Against all the internal promptings to "oh, just let him come home this one time".........remembering him as an 8 year old who you want to protect..............NO, this is reality and it is a tough one. And, there will be more to the story, so you will clearly need to keep encouraging yourself along the way........</p><p></p><p>So, please MrMike, celebrate this victory, go out to dinner with your wife, do a happy dance around your office, buy yourself a new pair of sneakers, anything to commemorate what a good job you did. I know how hard this is to do. I'm telling you from where I sit, you done good!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 606893, member: 13542"] Good job MrMike! You've quite successfully walked through the latest mine field. Good work! Each step of the way, treacherous as it is for us, is a [U][B]huge[/B][/U] victory, not [I]at all[/I] a small victory. We all must learn to pat ourselves on the back for these steps, they are outrageously difficult and tear our hearts right out of our chests. Do not minimize this and simply move onto the next drama, let yourself really get what you went through to come to this decision.................you won a GREAT victory fighting your natural instincts to protect and keep your son safe........... Each step is a victory which has to be acknowledges in order to build on whatever the next step is. It is FAR too easy for us to not acknowledge the intense level of re-learning, shifting our parental gears, facing our fears, dealing with our disappointments and sorrow...............no one except those in the trenches with you, NOT EVEN your therapist, really gets the magnitude of this for us, the parents............ What we go through, what we have to let go of, what our losses and suffering is............. you did great. Against all the internal promptings to "oh, just let him come home this one time".........remembering him as an 8 year old who you want to protect..............NO, this is reality and it is a tough one. And, there will be more to the story, so you will clearly need to keep encouraging yourself along the way........ So, please MrMike, celebrate this victory, go out to dinner with your wife, do a happy dance around your office, buy yourself a new pair of sneakers, anything to commemorate what a good job you did. I know how hard this is to do. I'm telling you from where I sit, you done good! [/QUOTE]
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