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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 21335" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Janna, you wrote, "I may need to seek psychiatric help. Seriously, I'm not in a very good emotional state. I'm holding it together for my children. My SO is worried sick about me. I keep telling him I'm fine, to save him from worry, but I'm truly not. I wouldn't dare tell anyone but you guys - but I'm really not fine."</p><p></p><p>Get the help. You need it. It will not only help you feel more in control, but it will also empower you as you need right now.</p><p></p><p>It needn't be a psychiatrist, a good clinical psychologist can help. And it needn't involve medications if you don't want it to.</p><p></p><p>been there done that. Not with foster mothers of course, but with PTSD etc. I'm not afraid to call for such help when I need it, even if I have to keep it quiet from my extended family.</p><p></p><p>Have you written any letter yet? Because the CPS worker who orchestrated this stunt will not learn until she has to face consequences. an important meeting got derailed because FM was where she shouldn't have been. And it also doesn't look good for difficult child 2's placement. Caseworker has to learn (and grow up!) and so does FM. The lawyers should at least have objected after the meeting, if they were in shock during it.</p><p></p><p>You're also carrying a lot of anger (understandably). You need to get it under control ASAP. I don't mean eliminate it - you can't do that. But control also means using it productively, like an industrial laser beam. Once again, a psychologist can help, especially with cognitive behaviour therapy. Once you have anger controlled, you can handle meetings like this and totally turn the tables by NOT letting them get to you so you can't think clearly. I freely admit - I use anger as a driving force sometimes. It helps me get rid of it by directing it in a way that helps me accomplish things. Under control, I can think more clearly, more sharply and more quickly. Out of control - I'm a hazard.</p><p></p><p>I'm not surprised you're feeling overloaded. You had expectations of sorting out some vital problems and it all got derailed. When you lack control over what is going on (because other people or circumstances take it away from you) the stress escalates badly. As soon as you can grab back some control, ANY control, it reduces your stress. You need to feel as if you're doing something, anything, even if it's not actually changing things. Channelling the adrenalin, basically, helps. Like getting yourself a job smashing glass in a recycling factory. Very therapeutic! difficult child 1 goes out into the yard and plays target practice on a stump with his knives. rather a stump, than a person.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there, even if it's by your fingernails. Keep us posted.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 21335, member: 1991"] Janna, you wrote, "I may need to seek psychiatric help. Seriously, I'm not in a very good emotional state. I'm holding it together for my children. My SO is worried sick about me. I keep telling him I'm fine, to save him from worry, but I'm truly not. I wouldn't dare tell anyone but you guys - but I'm really not fine." Get the help. You need it. It will not only help you feel more in control, but it will also empower you as you need right now. It needn't be a psychiatrist, a good clinical psychologist can help. And it needn't involve medications if you don't want it to. been there done that. Not with foster mothers of course, but with PTSD etc. I'm not afraid to call for such help when I need it, even if I have to keep it quiet from my extended family. Have you written any letter yet? Because the CPS worker who orchestrated this stunt will not learn until she has to face consequences. an important meeting got derailed because FM was where she shouldn't have been. And it also doesn't look good for difficult child 2's placement. Caseworker has to learn (and grow up!) and so does FM. The lawyers should at least have objected after the meeting, if they were in shock during it. You're also carrying a lot of anger (understandably). You need to get it under control ASAP. I don't mean eliminate it - you can't do that. But control also means using it productively, like an industrial laser beam. Once again, a psychologist can help, especially with cognitive behaviour therapy. Once you have anger controlled, you can handle meetings like this and totally turn the tables by NOT letting them get to you so you can't think clearly. I freely admit - I use anger as a driving force sometimes. It helps me get rid of it by directing it in a way that helps me accomplish things. Under control, I can think more clearly, more sharply and more quickly. Out of control - I'm a hazard. I'm not surprised you're feeling overloaded. You had expectations of sorting out some vital problems and it all got derailed. When you lack control over what is going on (because other people or circumstances take it away from you) the stress escalates badly. As soon as you can grab back some control, ANY control, it reduces your stress. You need to feel as if you're doing something, anything, even if it's not actually changing things. Channelling the adrenalin, basically, helps. Like getting yourself a job smashing glass in a recycling factory. Very therapeutic! difficult child 1 goes out into the yard and plays target practice on a stump with his knives. rather a stump, than a person. Hang in there, even if it's by your fingernails. Keep us posted. Marg [/QUOTE]
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