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Update on difficult child, bad attitude but still doing right things
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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 550417" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>I'm thinking hold off talking to anybody about last night. You probably are on track with the anxiety theory and him calling you as a anxiety relief. As difficult as it is for you as mom to be on the brunt of his mood and have it then worry and upset you, it is actually a much healthier method of relieving his anxiety than his previous choices (gambling etc). Could be that as his mom who always has his back, you are for him the person he trusts to let it all out with. Totally not fair to get you wound up! And down the line when he's well on his way, this probably should be tackled to relieve some pressure on you as the go to vent source. For right now though? In many ways your posts show him progressing and participating in his own personal growth. I think that's great. And very rarely comes easy to a person. Add in pressures of school, his sport, getting along with teammates, working to not repeat past mistakes, impending graduation and the fears of the future? That's a lot for a easy child to navigate. Let alone a difficult child. I think it's great that he went for a walk and watched a program, had a good sleep and sounded better today. I hope his car repair goes smoothly so he doesn't upset himself again. Meanwhile, I think it's pretty common for adult kids to call their parent to vent out all of their fears to a trusted person. Sadly, they get relief from the talk and leave the parent worried sick when they usually feel much better and think nothing of the parent worrying themselves sick over them. </p><p></p><p>I am glad he has you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 550417, member: 4264"] I'm thinking hold off talking to anybody about last night. You probably are on track with the anxiety theory and him calling you as a anxiety relief. As difficult as it is for you as mom to be on the brunt of his mood and have it then worry and upset you, it is actually a much healthier method of relieving his anxiety than his previous choices (gambling etc). Could be that as his mom who always has his back, you are for him the person he trusts to let it all out with. Totally not fair to get you wound up! And down the line when he's well on his way, this probably should be tackled to relieve some pressure on you as the go to vent source. For right now though? In many ways your posts show him progressing and participating in his own personal growth. I think that's great. And very rarely comes easy to a person. Add in pressures of school, his sport, getting along with teammates, working to not repeat past mistakes, impending graduation and the fears of the future? That's a lot for a easy child to navigate. Let alone a difficult child. I think it's great that he went for a walk and watched a program, had a good sleep and sounded better today. I hope his car repair goes smoothly so he doesn't upset himself again. Meanwhile, I think it's pretty common for adult kids to call their parent to vent out all of their fears to a trusted person. Sadly, they get relief from the talk and leave the parent worried sick when they usually feel much better and think nothing of the parent worrying themselves sick over them. I am glad he has you. [/QUOTE]
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