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Update on difficult child, bad attitude but still doing right things
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 550697" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>To continue my monologue <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>difficult child got scores and teacher recommendations from his practise finals. I think he did awesome, unfortunately he isn't as happy with himself. Still recommended study shouldn't be too much for him and with the results I will be against him postponing some finals (and graduation) to spring. He will be busy enough also then. Better to get it over and done with. </p><p></p><p>His first language teacher wants him to check some grammar and be careful not to let the majority language to influence his expressions in writing. Very common problem with us and difficult child has been mainly speaking this majority language last year and half. Still difficult child scored somewhere between two highest grades (highest is top 5 %, second one next 10 %.) The majority language will be an easy highest grade (it is considered similar higher level foreign language exam than English to him and in reality he is basically almost bilingual.) His English looks like weak second best grade, but the teacher wants him to write few short (200-250 words) practise essays for her to correct and she believes that will help to make it solid second best grade. Spanish is his worst subject. But even that is likely to be the third best grade (top 15-30 %.) Teacher wants difficult child figure out when to use imperfect and when preterite and rehash some vocabulary. This is the most work and I wouldn't mind if he would just forget whole exam. He really don't need it, so he could just go and do his best without any extra studying or skip it. Absolutely not worth stressing over. His math looks like sure bet highest mark even though he did mess up something small with series and teacher recommended him to check those. Still safely over the limit for highest grade. Chem was also strong highest grade and while his understanding of electromagnetism may not be up to bar with other parts (he totally gfged that course) also physics should be a top mark. So he should mainly work with his English and Spanish. Or drop the Spanish or take a little worse grade from that. I really don't see any reason for him to stress.</p><p></p><p>Then again, I will be stressing if he will </p><p>a) remember the exam dates</p><p>b) wake up early enough to make it to exams</p><p>c) not get lost between his home and the school he is doing exams in (it's less than a mile away and he goes by it often but that doesn't mean a thing with difficult child. When he doesn't want to find his way, he can get lost in the single bedroom apartment if he wants to)</p><p>d) remember to take a pen with him</p><p>e) remember not to take his phone with him (or anything else forbidden) </p><p>f) not run away middle of the exam</p><p>g) actually do the exam</p><p>h) remember to write his name to the exam</p><p>should I continue? <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/runcirclsmiley2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":runcirclsmiley2:" title="runcirclsmiley2 :runcirclsmiley2:" data-shortname=":runcirclsmiley2:" /></p><p></p><p>Seriously: Unfortunately this is exactly a kind of situation, there difficult child self-sabotages or behaves very passive-aggressive ways if overwhelmed. It is totally his MO to 'forget' dates, times or 'get lost' if he feels insecure and overstressed. And if he screws these up it only heightens the stress for spring.</p><p></p><p>We will have a conference call tomorrow with difficult child, his positional coach, head coach and the mental coaching specialist difficult child has been working with about the accommodations for difficult child during these finals and difficult child's schedule. I will try to call difficult child today and talk him to tell about how stressed he was at Sunday during that conference call. I think I will not rat him out even if he doesn't. I think I'm not willing to risk his trust over this after all.</p><p></p><p>Can we just skip straight to two months from now when all of this will be over with? Pretty please?!? <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/please.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":please:" title="please :please:" data-shortname=":please:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 550697, member: 14557"] To continue my monologue :winking: difficult child got scores and teacher recommendations from his practise finals. I think he did awesome, unfortunately he isn't as happy with himself. Still recommended study shouldn't be too much for him and with the results I will be against him postponing some finals (and graduation) to spring. He will be busy enough also then. Better to get it over and done with. His first language teacher wants him to check some grammar and be careful not to let the majority language to influence his expressions in writing. Very common problem with us and difficult child has been mainly speaking this majority language last year and half. Still difficult child scored somewhere between two highest grades (highest is top 5 %, second one next 10 %.) The majority language will be an easy highest grade (it is considered similar higher level foreign language exam than English to him and in reality he is basically almost bilingual.) His English looks like weak second best grade, but the teacher wants him to write few short (200-250 words) practise essays for her to correct and she believes that will help to make it solid second best grade. Spanish is his worst subject. But even that is likely to be the third best grade (top 15-30 %.) Teacher wants difficult child figure out when to use imperfect and when preterite and rehash some vocabulary. This is the most work and I wouldn't mind if he would just forget whole exam. He really don't need it, so he could just go and do his best without any extra studying or skip it. Absolutely not worth stressing over. His math looks like sure bet highest mark even though he did mess up something small with series and teacher recommended him to check those. Still safely over the limit for highest grade. Chem was also strong highest grade and while his understanding of electromagnetism may not be up to bar with other parts (he totally gfged that course) also physics should be a top mark. So he should mainly work with his English and Spanish. Or drop the Spanish or take a little worse grade from that. I really don't see any reason for him to stress. Then again, I will be stressing if he will a) remember the exam dates b) wake up early enough to make it to exams c) not get lost between his home and the school he is doing exams in (it's less than a mile away and he goes by it often but that doesn't mean a thing with difficult child. When he doesn't want to find his way, he can get lost in the single bedroom apartment if he wants to) d) remember to take a pen with him e) remember not to take his phone with him (or anything else forbidden) f) not run away middle of the exam g) actually do the exam h) remember to write his name to the exam should I continue? :runcirclsmiley2: Seriously: Unfortunately this is exactly a kind of situation, there difficult child self-sabotages or behaves very passive-aggressive ways if overwhelmed. It is totally his MO to 'forget' dates, times or 'get lost' if he feels insecure and overstressed. And if he screws these up it only heightens the stress for spring. We will have a conference call tomorrow with difficult child, his positional coach, head coach and the mental coaching specialist difficult child has been working with about the accommodations for difficult child during these finals and difficult child's schedule. I will try to call difficult child today and talk him to tell about how stressed he was at Sunday during that conference call. I think I will not rat him out even if he doesn't. I think I'm not willing to risk his trust over this after all. Can we just skip straight to two months from now when all of this will be over with? Pretty please?!? :please: [/QUOTE]
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