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Update on difficult child, he is now living with birth mom and family
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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 436229" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>I'm not adopted but I can imagine that feeling of not knowing, not fitting and being haunted by it... In fact, I think sometimes children don't "fit" with their biological parents either, but that's another story. It's one of the reasons I have a perpetual inner debate going on about whether it was right to take my Moroccan son out of Morocco, introducing him to a whole new level of "not fitting"... And why I also think that we may well end up going back to live there... Cultural identity seems important.</p><p>What you say about finding that you could fit everywhere, anywhere, Star - that seems important too. I feel like, as the mother of an adopted child, it's part of my duty to give my son that sense that, while he might have been born to an unknown mother and then "abandoned", who he is, in and of himself, is precious and has absolutely every right to be. The world is so tragic in the limitations it places on our thinking, our seeing... we are all children of god, and we all have a place and a role.</p><p>In terms of the original post, I am sorry that you have experienced this heartache with your troubled son. May there be some sort of reconciliation and healing fin future. You have done a great thing in loving him so unconditionally - I hope that one day, when he is maturer and less pain-filled, he will see that and acknowledge it with gratitude.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 436229, member: 11227"] I'm not adopted but I can imagine that feeling of not knowing, not fitting and being haunted by it... In fact, I think sometimes children don't "fit" with their biological parents either, but that's another story. It's one of the reasons I have a perpetual inner debate going on about whether it was right to take my Moroccan son out of Morocco, introducing him to a whole new level of "not fitting"... And why I also think that we may well end up going back to live there... Cultural identity seems important. What you say about finding that you could fit everywhere, anywhere, Star - that seems important too. I feel like, as the mother of an adopted child, it's part of my duty to give my son that sense that, while he might have been born to an unknown mother and then "abandoned", who he is, in and of himself, is precious and has absolutely every right to be. The world is so tragic in the limitations it places on our thinking, our seeing... we are all children of god, and we all have a place and a role. In terms of the original post, I am sorry that you have experienced this heartache with your troubled son. May there be some sort of reconciliation and healing fin future. You have done a great thing in loving him so unconditionally - I hope that one day, when he is maturer and less pain-filled, he will see that and acknowledge it with gratitude. [/QUOTE]
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