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Update on difficult child J.... some good some not
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 211046" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Woofens, Sorry you're having to deal with this.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child has done the same sort of thing since he was a little gaffer, and still pulls it to this day (at 19).</p><p></p><p>Some of our defiant ones seem to thrive on the chaos. If they can wind you up and make you spin out of control, they seem to get a big payoff. I know it's hard, but the key is not to let him wind you up.</p><p></p><p>Like Andy and Mary have suggested, putting the onus back on him seems to work best. </p><p>My rule with my difficult child is, I've given you input about what's appropriate for the conditions (warm clothes, a sun hat, behaving properly in public...whatever it is). What you do now is your decision, but YOU have to live with the consequences and I don't want to hear any complaining about it.</p><p></p><p>difficult child has gone to school without a coat, without shoes on, etc. He's had a super-short buzz cut from the barber (which he demanded, and then hated), and missed more than one meal. It doesn't stop the rages entirely, but it seems to cut them short AND it sure has reduced MY stress level.</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure if this will work for your difficult child J, but it's worth a try.</p><p></p><p>Sorry that difficult child D is still bad mouthing you and being a PITA.</p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 211046, member: 3907"] Woofens, Sorry you're having to deal with this. My difficult child has done the same sort of thing since he was a little gaffer, and still pulls it to this day (at 19). Some of our defiant ones seem to thrive on the chaos. If they can wind you up and make you spin out of control, they seem to get a big payoff. I know it's hard, but the key is not to let him wind you up. Like Andy and Mary have suggested, putting the onus back on him seems to work best. My rule with my difficult child is, I've given you input about what's appropriate for the conditions (warm clothes, a sun hat, behaving properly in public...whatever it is). What you do now is your decision, but YOU have to live with the consequences and I don't want to hear any complaining about it. difficult child has gone to school without a coat, without shoes on, etc. He's had a super-short buzz cut from the barber (which he demanded, and then hated), and missed more than one meal. It doesn't stop the rages entirely, but it seems to cut them short AND it sure has reduced MY stress level. I'm not sure if this will work for your difficult child J, but it's worth a try. Sorry that difficult child D is still bad mouthing you and being a PITA. (((HUGS))) Trinity [/QUOTE]
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