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Update on difficult child who recently moved out. Could it be?
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 620176" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>I did that too, WF! I used to give great speeches about all kinds of lofty, noble things that I just knew...just knew...would break through to him and jolt him into changing. </p><p></p><p>He must not know these things, so it's my job as his mother to make sure he's heard it at least once. </p><p></p><p>I threw a lot of words at it---verbal and written. I still do, but I'm doing better.</p><p></p><p>None of those words changed him. Maybe they went into a bank that he can draw on later, I don't know. </p><p></p><p>I was sure I could say something brilliant, do something, that ONE MORE THING, that would turn the tide. </p><p></p><p>I see some people doing it for the entire lifetime of their adult grown children, and still wondering why nothing has changed.</p><p></p><p>I don't want to be one of those people. I don't. Yes, I am still afraid for him and for his future----sometimes paralyzingly so. I must sit with that fear, welcome it, accept it, feel it and still...do nothing because of it. I have just started learning that in the past year and I have been practicing it. </p><p></p><p>And guess what? It has not killed me yet. It was my worst fear---feeling that fear. </p><p></p><p>Let's have a great day today! Let's work hard to do something different, just one thing. It will change other things.</p><p></p><p>Happy Valentine's Day! Peace and blessings to you today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 620176, member: 17542"] I did that too, WF! I used to give great speeches about all kinds of lofty, noble things that I just knew...just knew...would break through to him and jolt him into changing. He must not know these things, so it's my job as his mother to make sure he's heard it at least once. I threw a lot of words at it---verbal and written. I still do, but I'm doing better. None of those words changed him. Maybe they went into a bank that he can draw on later, I don't know. I was sure I could say something brilliant, do something, that ONE MORE THING, that would turn the tide. I see some people doing it for the entire lifetime of their adult grown children, and still wondering why nothing has changed. I don't want to be one of those people. I don't. Yes, I am still afraid for him and for his future----sometimes paralyzingly so. I must sit with that fear, welcome it, accept it, feel it and still...do nothing because of it. I have just started learning that in the past year and I have been practicing it. And guess what? It has not killed me yet. It was my worst fear---feeling that fear. Let's have a great day today! Let's work hard to do something different, just one thing. It will change other things. Happy Valentine's Day! Peace and blessings to you today. [/QUOTE]
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