Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Update on difficult child who recently moved out. Could it be?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="helpangel" data-source="post: 620203" data-attributes="member: 7170"><p>I don't think you jinxed anything by posting, I'll even go one further and say it was good for you he back slid back into his old ways...</p><p></p><p>No I haven't lost my mind (well actually?) anyway let me explain LOL</p><p></p><p>If he had truly turned over a new leaf and gotten a great job, a great wife, cool car, home & family of course you and all of us would be happy for him; but years from now (in the back of your mind) you would always wonder if you had been doing something wrong? On that same note would your parents get all the credit for his success like all that time and effort you have put into him didn't count? or worse was holding him back? If you & your folks do it all for him is his success his? I don't know I guess it's all in the way of looking at things... I try not to keep score in life or get caught up in the blame game.</p><p></p><p>I look at all 3 of my kids and know it's never going to be all good or all bad, there are always things that could be better but at same time things could be a whole lot worse. I use to totally stress when a bill showed up I didn't have money on hand to pay, now when I see the red words "SHUT OFF" I kind of chuckle and say to myself "that's their way of saying we seriously would like to see some money this month".</p><p></p><p>Seriously why stress? Does it solve anything? Not for me it just gets my head spinning so I can't think of logical solutions to the problem. Whats the worse that could happen? So they shut it off - people lived thousands of years without electricity, or cable or yes even internet. I don't think someone who has had home leveled by a tornado is stressing about missing their favorite show they are just glad to be alive!</p><p></p><p>On that note enjoy your Valentine's day and have comfort in knowing yes he's at that rough point in life everyone goes thru in finding themselves (transitioning to an adult) but it's not like he's high wire without a net that's what you and your folks are doing being the net so if he falls there is no SPLAT, but you have to let him climb that ladder or he will never know what he's capable of.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="helpangel, post: 620203, member: 7170"] I don't think you jinxed anything by posting, I'll even go one further and say it was good for you he back slid back into his old ways... No I haven't lost my mind (well actually?) anyway let me explain LOL If he had truly turned over a new leaf and gotten a great job, a great wife, cool car, home & family of course you and all of us would be happy for him; but years from now (in the back of your mind) you would always wonder if you had been doing something wrong? On that same note would your parents get all the credit for his success like all that time and effort you have put into him didn't count? or worse was holding him back? If you & your folks do it all for him is his success his? I don't know I guess it's all in the way of looking at things... I try not to keep score in life or get caught up in the blame game. I look at all 3 of my kids and know it's never going to be all good or all bad, there are always things that could be better but at same time things could be a whole lot worse. I use to totally stress when a bill showed up I didn't have money on hand to pay, now when I see the red words "SHUT OFF" I kind of chuckle and say to myself "that's their way of saying we seriously would like to see some money this month". Seriously why stress? Does it solve anything? Not for me it just gets my head spinning so I can't think of logical solutions to the problem. Whats the worse that could happen? So they shut it off - people lived thousands of years without electricity, or cable or yes even internet. I don't think someone who has had home leveled by a tornado is stressing about missing their favorite show they are just glad to be alive! On that note enjoy your Valentine's day and have comfort in knowing yes he's at that rough point in life everyone goes thru in finding themselves (transitioning to an adult) but it's not like he's high wire without a net that's what you and your folks are doing being the net so if he falls there is no SPLAT, but you have to let him climb that ladder or he will never know what he's capable of. Nancy [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Update on difficult child who recently moved out. Could it be?
Top