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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 539612" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>TL what a week you have had! I don't think I could have done that by myself and I'm so glad the time spent with difficult child was peaceful. His no tliking the rules is exactly why he needs to be there, it's what gets him in trouble at every recovery place he has been in. I was at our parent meeting a few weeks ago and one of the addicts that comes told us that he had a very difficult time when he first went to the sober house. The sober house he is referring to is one of the best men's sober houses in the city. The director lives there and has been in recovery for years. He knows addiction and recovery. So this person was saying he couldn't understand some of the rules, they seemed dumb to him and so he just didn't want to follow them and wanted to push back. Finally after several weeks the director called him in and asked him why he thought the rules were in place and he said he didn't know. The director said it wasn't for him to understand, it was for him to stop fighting them and accept that was how it was just do it and in doing that he would begin his recovery. He said that day he turned it around and no longer tried to see what he could get away with and from that point on his recovery began to make sense.</p><p></p><p>I don't know if your difficult child is like this or not, but so many of our difficult child's just want to fight every rule that there is and if they would just stop fighting they would find there life becomes so much more manageable. I hope he discovers this and goes with the program. If it is a well run program they know what they are doing and everything they ask them to do has a purpose.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry your friend is dying, that's very difficult for everyone and I'm sure you will miss her. Glad the visit with your dad went well. </p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 539612, member: 59"] TL what a week you have had! I don't think I could have done that by myself and I'm so glad the time spent with difficult child was peaceful. His no tliking the rules is exactly why he needs to be there, it's what gets him in trouble at every recovery place he has been in. I was at our parent meeting a few weeks ago and one of the addicts that comes told us that he had a very difficult time when he first went to the sober house. The sober house he is referring to is one of the best men's sober houses in the city. The director lives there and has been in recovery for years. He knows addiction and recovery. So this person was saying he couldn't understand some of the rules, they seemed dumb to him and so he just didn't want to follow them and wanted to push back. Finally after several weeks the director called him in and asked him why he thought the rules were in place and he said he didn't know. The director said it wasn't for him to understand, it was for him to stop fighting them and accept that was how it was just do it and in doing that he would begin his recovery. He said that day he turned it around and no longer tried to see what he could get away with and from that point on his recovery began to make sense. I don't know if your difficult child is like this or not, but so many of our difficult child's just want to fight every rule that there is and if they would just stop fighting they would find there life becomes so much more manageable. I hope he discovers this and goes with the program. If it is a well run program they know what they are doing and everything they ask them to do has a purpose. I'm sorry your friend is dying, that's very difficult for everyone and I'm sure you will miss her. Glad the visit with your dad went well. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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