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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 599228" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Good morning Barbara, I am in my morning drill getting ready to go to work, but I just read your post and thought of something a workshop facilitator once shared with me that made a lot of sense.........."<em>what you focus on expands"</em>............think about it, it's true. If you are focusing on laughter or joy or abundance or positive things, that expands. If we focus on fear, worry, dread, anger, all the 'stuff' our difficult child's bring to us, that expands too.</p><p></p><p>So, when I get caught in one of those grooves of negative thinking, I have to use my strength and push myself into a different focus...............perception is everything.............what we perceive is our reality in that moment..............and with trauma, the brain actually creates a new pathway, FEAR, and it gets so deep and ingrained, the neurotransmitters simply get stuck in that ditch,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,we have to create new pathways.............PTSD is that ditch, fight or flight............you can create new pathways with new thoughts by shifting out of what you are focusing on all the time.............it takes diligence because our minds go back to those thoughts so often, but it does work to keep changing our focus.</p><p></p><p>Definitely hold yourself in that light of love too, we deserve that as much as our difficult child's do..............HUGS to you my friend..........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 599228, member: 13542"] Good morning Barbara, I am in my morning drill getting ready to go to work, but I just read your post and thought of something a workshop facilitator once shared with me that made a lot of sense.........."[I]what you focus on expands"[/I]............think about it, it's true. If you are focusing on laughter or joy or abundance or positive things, that expands. If we focus on fear, worry, dread, anger, all the 'stuff' our difficult child's bring to us, that expands too. So, when I get caught in one of those grooves of negative thinking, I have to use my strength and push myself into a different focus...............perception is everything.............what we perceive is our reality in that moment..............and with trauma, the brain actually creates a new pathway, FEAR, and it gets so deep and ingrained, the neurotransmitters simply get stuck in that ditch,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,we have to create new pathways.............PTSD is that ditch, fight or flight............you can create new pathways with new thoughts by shifting out of what you are focusing on all the time.............it takes diligence because our minds go back to those thoughts so often, but it does work to keep changing our focus. Definitely hold yourself in that light of love too, we deserve that as much as our difficult child's do..............HUGS to you my friend.......... [/QUOTE]
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