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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 733303" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I am so proud of you!! I know how hard that was for you. That simple sentence you texted him is the beginning of changing the dynamics of your relationship with him.</p><p>As to your question if you were wrong, no, I do not think so. I think you did a very hard and loving thing. Yes, a loving thing. You love your son enough to let him go. Of course it hurts. Our mommy hearts want nothing more than to be able to swoop in and save our children from harm. The reality is, they are not little children anymore, they are grown adults and we are powerless to save them.</p><p></p><p>You have taken a big step in telling him you can no longer get caught up in his world of destruction. Don't be surprised if he keeps trying to get you to help him. It's okay to tell him no. I've been right where you are. My son has reached out to me telling me he's starving, he's going to freeze to death, he has no where to go, all his stuff was stolen, etc..... I've been on the receiving end of his rants when I've told him no. He's told me I'm a horrible mother, that I don't love him, he wished I were dead, you get the idea. It hurts to hear that from your own child but I came to understand that it's not really my son saying those things, it's his addiction and desperation, it's a grown man having a tantrum like a 2 year old because he's not getting his way.</p><p></p><p>You are doing great HH. Stay steady the course. Keep posting and keep reading posts. </p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/staystrong.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":staystrong:" title="staystrong :staystrong:" data-shortname=":staystrong:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/notalone.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":notalone:" title="notalone :notalone:" data-shortname=":notalone:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 733303, member: 18516"] I am so proud of you!! I know how hard that was for you. That simple sentence you texted him is the beginning of changing the dynamics of your relationship with him. As to your question if you were wrong, no, I do not think so. I think you did a very hard and loving thing. Yes, a loving thing. You love your son enough to let him go. Of course it hurts. Our mommy hearts want nothing more than to be able to swoop in and save our children from harm. The reality is, they are not little children anymore, they are grown adults and we are powerless to save them. You have taken a big step in telling him you can no longer get caught up in his world of destruction. Don't be surprised if he keeps trying to get you to help him. It's okay to tell him no. I've been right where you are. My son has reached out to me telling me he's starving, he's going to freeze to death, he has no where to go, all his stuff was stolen, etc..... I've been on the receiving end of his rants when I've told him no. He's told me I'm a horrible mother, that I don't love him, he wished I were dead, you get the idea. It hurts to hear that from your own child but I came to understand that it's not really my son saying those things, it's his addiction and desperation, it's a grown man having a tantrum like a 2 year old because he's not getting his way. You are doing great HH. Stay steady the course. Keep posting and keep reading posts. :staystrong::notalone: [/QUOTE]
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