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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 135343" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>Heather, re: </p><p></p><p>I don't mean to hijack this thread, but this point is a real problem for me. wife is <strong>constantly</strong> reminding me of my own cheatin' ways when I was McWeedy's age, and that I need to be a little more empathetic and understanding (if not forgiving).</p><p></p><p>My reply is the same as yours above: the difference is that when I was young, I had nobody at home to tell me right from wrong. I occasionally got encouragement for reasonably good choices (when I made them), but received virtually no guidance (and suffered no consequences) for bad choices - <strong>especially</strong> when I made them over and over and over again.</p><p></p><p>That's the point I try to make to wife: McWeedy has two former difficult children for parents. While we don't always agree on the right way to react to McWeedy's acting out, we do agree that he generally makes poor choices. And we let him know it, and offer to help (even when he doesn't want it).</p><p></p><p>And yet, despite having two people who have been there done that trying to keep him out of trouble, he's getting into the same mess I was (or worse) when I was his age. For me, that's the most frustrating thing. Unlike me at that age (without guidance), McWeedy does have guidance, support, and opportunities I never had; and to him, those benefits might as well be toilet paper.</p><p></p><p>Don't have much to offer, other than wanting to put in my two pennies on your quote.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 135343, member: 3579"] Heather, re: I don't mean to hijack this thread, but this point is a real problem for me. wife is [B]constantly[/B] reminding me of my own cheatin' ways when I was McWeedy's age, and that I need to be a little more empathetic and understanding (if not forgiving). My reply is the same as yours above: the difference is that when I was young, I had nobody at home to tell me right from wrong. I occasionally got encouragement for reasonably good choices (when I made them), but received virtually no guidance (and suffered no consequences) for bad choices - [B]especially[/B] when I made them over and over and over again. That's the point I try to make to wife: McWeedy has two former difficult children for parents. While we don't always agree on the right way to react to McWeedy's acting out, we do agree that he generally makes poor choices. And we let him know it, and offer to help (even when he doesn't want it). And yet, despite having two people who have been there done that trying to keep him out of trouble, he's getting into the same mess I was (or worse) when I was his age. For me, that's the most frustrating thing. Unlike me at that age (without guidance), McWeedy does have guidance, support, and opportunities I never had; and to him, those benefits might as well be toilet paper. Don't have much to offer, other than wanting to put in my two pennies on your quote. Mikey [/QUOTE]
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