AliceLee, yes, it did bring some small comfort when he told me it wasn't me. I really believe him. We are at that place where we can tell each other things and I do think he would have told me if I'd just blown it altogether or something.
Fran described it best with her "we let them down." When exdh and I adopted Rob I felt it was a huge responsibility (duh-lol)--but almost moreso than if I'd given birth because it was premeditated, deliberate, and, for me, with years of fore thought. I started thinking about adoption when I was in high school and knew I would do it some day in addition to bio kids. I had such high expectations for what kind of Mom I would be, or wanted to be, that I didn't come close to living up to my own expectations. I was impatient, unkind, heck- I was a downright AWFUL PERSON sometimes. sigh. So anyway, Rob's words are helping me feel reassured a bit that I didn't do permanent damage to him, thank God.
Janet, he is looking for a job within walking distance of his apartment so hopefully he won't have to drive a vehicle illegally (I don't think he owns one now) to get to work and back. I have no idea how he will get to his DUI classes or PO. His problem.
Suz
