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<blockquote data-quote="tishthedish" data-source="post: 664508" data-attributes="member: 17103"><p>Thank you for the comfort I experienced as the result of your responses. This is difficult any way you look at it. I was feeling raw BEFORE this happened. Now I'm just riding on the rims. </p><p></p><p>Yes. I have a terrific clinical team helping me as well as Al-Anon and truly spectacular friends. </p><p></p><p>Copa, I could have included your entire post here. It is spot on. Having never been involved in this type of situation we don't know what options exist. I still would have done the same thing, but my goodness, the process is still unfolding and we are mired in paperwork, case worker visits and more. It's interesting, I was out of town last week on a preplanned trip. My hubby got a full dose of what it takes to keep the home fires burning so to speak. He is a lot more sympathetic and realistic. </p><p></p><p>Crazy, this is so true. I was trying to read how to deal with negative behaviors in autistic preschoolers and I thought my brain would explode. No wonder. Tourette Syndrome, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), depression, eating disorders, addictions, the prison system, disability, foster care, autism, chromosomal deletions. Crap. I told my husband I want to read a book on flowers. Just flowers. As I speak a have to fill out school registration, visit records and other documents pertinent to getting licensed as a foster home. Plus it was recommended that we get a behaviorist, another speech therapist, another hour of occupational therapy and ABA therapy. This is in addition to what the school is doing. He's only one kid! </p><p></p><p>Respite, sweet respite, AHHHHH. Not so fast! It comes with strings. There must always be 2 people with our GS at all times, so for us to go out during respite, our son has to be here and it will count as a "supervised visit" for him. So increased contact with son, strangers in our house and we have to go out. Nothing about this is easy. Plus I had planned to take up playing the spoons for a hobby but have reconsidered in light of recent events.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/cautious.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":cautious:" title="cautious :cautious:" data-shortname=":cautious:" /></p><p></p><p>RE, from your mouth to God's ear. I know my limitations. This is exhausting on a whole new level. On one hand it's all emotional energy expended and nothing coming in. Nothing from our elder son in prison and nothing from our younger son fighting his addiction. As for our GS, he brings joy and light but the physical energy expenditure is immense. And our hearts break for him. Such a complicated little life and he did nothing to deserve this. </p><p>We'll do what we can with the time we have and will do everything in our power to stay in his life, even if we have to move to do it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tishthedish, post: 664508, member: 17103"] Thank you for the comfort I experienced as the result of your responses. This is difficult any way you look at it. I was feeling raw BEFORE this happened. Now I'm just riding on the rims. Yes. I have a terrific clinical team helping me as well as Al-Anon and truly spectacular friends. Copa, I could have included your entire post here. It is spot on. Having never been involved in this type of situation we don't know what options exist. I still would have done the same thing, but my goodness, the process is still unfolding and we are mired in paperwork, case worker visits and more. It's interesting, I was out of town last week on a preplanned trip. My hubby got a full dose of what it takes to keep the home fires burning so to speak. He is a lot more sympathetic and realistic. Crazy, this is so true. I was trying to read how to deal with negative behaviors in autistic preschoolers and I thought my brain would explode. No wonder. Tourette Syndrome, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), depression, eating disorders, addictions, the prison system, disability, foster care, autism, chromosomal deletions. Crap. I told my husband I want to read a book on flowers. Just flowers. As I speak a have to fill out school registration, visit records and other documents pertinent to getting licensed as a foster home. Plus it was recommended that we get a behaviorist, another speech therapist, another hour of occupational therapy and ABA therapy. This is in addition to what the school is doing. He's only one kid! Respite, sweet respite, AHHHHH. Not so fast! It comes with strings. There must always be 2 people with our GS at all times, so for us to go out during respite, our son has to be here and it will count as a "supervised visit" for him. So increased contact with son, strangers in our house and we have to go out. Nothing about this is easy. Plus I had planned to take up playing the spoons for a hobby but have reconsidered in light of recent events.:cautious: RE, from your mouth to God's ear. I know my limitations. This is exhausting on a whole new level. On one hand it's all emotional energy expended and nothing coming in. Nothing from our elder son in prison and nothing from our younger son fighting his addiction. As for our GS, he brings joy and light but the physical energy expenditure is immense. And our hearts break for him. Such a complicated little life and he did nothing to deserve this. We'll do what we can with the time we have and will do everything in our power to stay in his life, even if we have to move to do it. [/QUOTE]
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