Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Update on Tink
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 310519" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>BBK, </p><p></p><p>Okay - hon. Here's my official take on the situation. But first a message from me to you. HUGE HUGS, YOU WILL SURVIVE THIS, You can pay now OR pay later. If you pay now when she's young - the consequences are much less severe. If you allow her to go through this it will break your heart but she will survive it. If you do not allow her to go through this - you look at any number of women on COPS, or in correctional institutions, mental institutions or homeless. Am I right about that? (shrugs) How do any of us know if we are right? It's at best a shot in the dark; however if my choices are: </p><p></p><p>allow my child the chance to be around people who can observe her/his manipulative/hyper/out of control behavior at age 5,6,7.8.9 - and try to find a solution through behavior intervention in a controlled environment with staff and medication or </p><p></p><p>bring her home where I know only how to nurture the continual bad behavior with no end in sight? Not that I MEAN to - just that I'm not a trained professional AND take a CHANCE that it will continue into adulthood and possibly get worse or POSSIBLY correct itself. </p><p></p><p>I'm going with the first option and did - repeatedly until I felt I had NO heart left. BUT I do - and Kitty - I have more of it, and more compassion than almost anyone I know....and I get a lot of the things I never did before about a lot of people. I'm not numb...I'm very intune. </p><p></p><p>(passes entire box of kleenex) </p><p></p><p>I Love you Kitty......I mean that. You know it. I love Tink too. </p><p></p><p>The hardest thing I will EVER EVER Tell you through tears that I couldn't cry with you the other night one Mom to another is....</p><p></p><p>Let them do their job.....and if she's uncomfortable....isn't she smart enough to manipulate them to get out of being in an uncomfortable place? Yes - she's brilliant. And the shank thing? - Think TV....11 year old boy...or other kids that have been around in the system or have uncles or other family members that overhear things. Thats all that is....big kid talk to little kids....HEY try this....it scared my parents to death and I was out in a day. </p><p></p><p>Hugs....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 310519, member: 4964"] BBK, Okay - hon. Here's my official take on the situation. But first a message from me to you. HUGE HUGS, YOU WILL SURVIVE THIS, You can pay now OR pay later. If you pay now when she's young - the consequences are much less severe. If you allow her to go through this it will break your heart but she will survive it. If you do not allow her to go through this - you look at any number of women on COPS, or in correctional institutions, mental institutions or homeless. Am I right about that? (shrugs) How do any of us know if we are right? It's at best a shot in the dark; however if my choices are: allow my child the chance to be around people who can observe her/his manipulative/hyper/out of control behavior at age 5,6,7.8.9 - and try to find a solution through behavior intervention in a controlled environment with staff and medication or bring her home where I know only how to nurture the continual bad behavior with no end in sight? Not that I MEAN to - just that I'm not a trained professional AND take a CHANCE that it will continue into adulthood and possibly get worse or POSSIBLY correct itself. I'm going with the first option and did - repeatedly until I felt I had NO heart left. BUT I do - and Kitty - I have more of it, and more compassion than almost anyone I know....and I get a lot of the things I never did before about a lot of people. I'm not numb...I'm very intune. (passes entire box of kleenex) I Love you Kitty......I mean that. You know it. I love Tink too. The hardest thing I will EVER EVER Tell you through tears that I couldn't cry with you the other night one Mom to another is.... Let them do their job.....and if she's uncomfortable....isn't she smart enough to manipulate them to get out of being in an uncomfortable place? Yes - she's brilliant. And the shank thing? - Think TV....11 year old boy...or other kids that have been around in the system or have uncles or other family members that overhear things. Thats all that is....big kid talk to little kids....HEY try this....it scared my parents to death and I was out in a day. Hugs.... [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Update on Tink
Top