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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 310548" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>Hugs first of all. I know it's hard.</p><p></p><p>But...</p><p></p><p>Make phone calls, ask questions, inform yourself. Don't be snotty unless you have to but let them know they are dealing with an involved parent and an informed one. YOU are the parent and YOU have the RIGHT to know what's going on. If you're not comfortable with the medications, ask for a meet with the doctor to find out more. If they try to poo poo that, insist. Tell them that they are giving YOUR child medications and treatment and that you as the PARENT need to know what is going on. I know some things have to be different but I've never understood why phospitals operate in such a different manner from "normal" hospitals. (treatment plans, parent information, etc.) What have you had in the way of family therapy? Every time difficult child was admitted, we usually walked out of there from the intake with an appointment card and were expected to comply. Even the last time when he was legally an adult....he still lived at home and was in school. Which, by the way, was the only time we got someone who had a clue. The therapist we got is actually legally blind...could see very little...mostly light and shadows, but he got more from just listening than anyone else had from seeing. difficult child, I'm sure, thought he could pull one over on the guy by speaking earnestly. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/rofl.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="rofl :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /> The guy didn't buy it and saw right through it. I loved it!</p><p></p><p>Sit down and make a concise list of your concerns and/or questions. Start calling until you get someone who can answer those questions to your satisfaction. You may want to also check to see if there is a social worker or someone there who can help you with this. If the doctor truly is too busy to speak to you at length (not the best situation but possible) maybe you can find someone to act as a liason of sorts. Express your concern about Tink but don't come across as a mom who is worried that her baby girl isn't getting hugs or doesn't have her blanke or stuff like that. Show them that you are a mom who cares greatly but understands Tink needs help and that you want to be and intend to be involved in her treatment. Know what I mean?? Ask about after care services.....the social worker can help with this. Show them that you are an involved parent and not a stage/diva mom....if that makes sense. </p><p></p><p>Keep a log of every person you speak with. Times, dates, what was said....all of it. Any communication between you (and Copper or Matt for that matter) and anyone there should be documented. Not only does that help you keep things straight for yourself, it can help if there are any inconsistancies in what you are told. Or, it can be used later if there are problems you need to address in regards to their level of care.</p><p></p><p>And if things happen again like when Copper visited....report it. Start with the nurses station where Tink is at and go up the chain if you have to. That is beyond unacceptable. Again though, don't go off on them. Be polite but stern and let them know that you won't tolerate that kind of treatment. Granted, sometimes people get busy and things happen but for a scared 8 year old to be crying because she thinks no one is visiting? Nope...not going to happen. I don't think they want a lobby full of warrior mom's showing up. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/winks.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":winks:" title="winks :winks:" data-shortname=":winks:" /></p><p></p><p>As for you....I know you are worried but you need to take this time to decompress. Try to find the line between concern for Tink and having BBK time and stay on your side of it. Sometimes the only good breaks husband and I had over the years were times when difficult child was either in the psychiatric hospital or juvie. LOL Not the best circumstances, I'll give you that, but you take what you can get.</p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 310548, member: 2459"] Hugs first of all. I know it's hard. But... Make phone calls, ask questions, inform yourself. Don't be snotty unless you have to but let them know they are dealing with an involved parent and an informed one. YOU are the parent and YOU have the RIGHT to know what's going on. If you're not comfortable with the medications, ask for a meet with the doctor to find out more. If they try to poo poo that, insist. Tell them that they are giving YOUR child medications and treatment and that you as the PARENT need to know what is going on. I know some things have to be different but I've never understood why phospitals operate in such a different manner from "normal" hospitals. (treatment plans, parent information, etc.) What have you had in the way of family therapy? Every time difficult child was admitted, we usually walked out of there from the intake with an appointment card and were expected to comply. Even the last time when he was legally an adult....he still lived at home and was in school. Which, by the way, was the only time we got someone who had a clue. The therapist we got is actually legally blind...could see very little...mostly light and shadows, but he got more from just listening than anyone else had from seeing. difficult child, I'm sure, thought he could pull one over on the guy by speaking earnestly. :rofl: The guy didn't buy it and saw right through it. I loved it! Sit down and make a concise list of your concerns and/or questions. Start calling until you get someone who can answer those questions to your satisfaction. You may want to also check to see if there is a social worker or someone there who can help you with this. If the doctor truly is too busy to speak to you at length (not the best situation but possible) maybe you can find someone to act as a liason of sorts. Express your concern about Tink but don't come across as a mom who is worried that her baby girl isn't getting hugs or doesn't have her blanke or stuff like that. Show them that you are a mom who cares greatly but understands Tink needs help and that you want to be and intend to be involved in her treatment. Know what I mean?? Ask about after care services.....the social worker can help with this. Show them that you are an involved parent and not a stage/diva mom....if that makes sense. Keep a log of every person you speak with. Times, dates, what was said....all of it. Any communication between you (and Copper or Matt for that matter) and anyone there should be documented. Not only does that help you keep things straight for yourself, it can help if there are any inconsistancies in what you are told. Or, it can be used later if there are problems you need to address in regards to their level of care. And if things happen again like when Copper visited....report it. Start with the nurses station where Tink is at and go up the chain if you have to. That is beyond unacceptable. Again though, don't go off on them. Be polite but stern and let them know that you won't tolerate that kind of treatment. Granted, sometimes people get busy and things happen but for a scared 8 year old to be crying because she thinks no one is visiting? Nope...not going to happen. I don't think they want a lobby full of warrior mom's showing up. :winks: As for you....I know you are worried but you need to take this time to decompress. Try to find the line between concern for Tink and having BBK time and stay on your side of it. Sometimes the only good breaks husband and I had over the years were times when difficult child was either in the psychiatric hospital or juvie. LOL Not the best circumstances, I'll give you that, but you take what you can get. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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