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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 655443" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Oh Copa...once again I am reminded of how much worse things could be. My son is also on the edge of being a conspiracy theorist. More than once I've joked about giving him tinfoil to make a hat. He distrusts the government...talks about the bad in the world. But to travel around and actually get involved? No. I think mine is too lazy.</p><p></p><p>Though today he did mention getting some money to go to internet friends of his in other states. All I said is, "These aren't people you actually know. I have Facebook friends I've never met and someday I might meet them, but I'd certainly not go there and expect them to put me up just because they said they would."</p><p></p><p>As for your question...no, I don't think it's a cop-out and certainly not abandonment. Others here have gone "no-contact" or "low-contact" with their kids. I can see where these things wear at you. They do me too. Everything you have written is true. He will do what he wants and you can't change it. If he needs you, as in a true emergency, he will call regardless of what you say. </p><p></p><p>I just really want a quasi-responsible and somewhat content son. I don't expect what him to be perfect, just get a job, pay his bills. </p><p></p><p>Truly, I feel his biggest problem has something to do with being such a lonely, lost person. He really does crave friends and attention and he doesn't have any really. I'm sure that is in large part his doing. He chose to have unreliable "friends" and the decent friends he had backed off. Nothing I can do about that but it hurts.</p><p></p><p>I don't know about the money. I know we said we wouldn't pay it. I didn't say we wouldn't give him a short-term job to earn it. I don't know. I don't want him in jail over $30. </p><p></p><p>If he wants job corps...I'd like him to try it. It's not prison. He can always quit if he hates it. But if he really does try...it could be good for him. He has his diploma, this would be for a trade. He wouldn't come home afterward. Frankly, I hope he never returns to this town, except to see us. I hate feeling that way...but there's really nothing here for him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 655443, member: 17309"] Oh Copa...once again I am reminded of how much worse things could be. My son is also on the edge of being a conspiracy theorist. More than once I've joked about giving him tinfoil to make a hat. He distrusts the government...talks about the bad in the world. But to travel around and actually get involved? No. I think mine is too lazy. Though today he did mention getting some money to go to internet friends of his in other states. All I said is, "These aren't people you actually know. I have Facebook friends I've never met and someday I might meet them, but I'd certainly not go there and expect them to put me up just because they said they would." As for your question...no, I don't think it's a cop-out and certainly not abandonment. Others here have gone "no-contact" or "low-contact" with their kids. I can see where these things wear at you. They do me too. Everything you have written is true. He will do what he wants and you can't change it. If he needs you, as in a true emergency, he will call regardless of what you say. I just really want a quasi-responsible and somewhat content son. I don't expect what him to be perfect, just get a job, pay his bills. Truly, I feel his biggest problem has something to do with being such a lonely, lost person. He really does crave friends and attention and he doesn't have any really. I'm sure that is in large part his doing. He chose to have unreliable "friends" and the decent friends he had backed off. Nothing I can do about that but it hurts. I don't know about the money. I know we said we wouldn't pay it. I didn't say we wouldn't give him a short-term job to earn it. I don't know. I don't want him in jail over $30. If he wants job corps...I'd like him to try it. It's not prison. He can always quit if he hates it. But if he really does try...it could be good for him. He has his diploma, this would be for a trade. He wouldn't come home afterward. Frankly, I hope he never returns to this town, except to see us. I hate feeling that way...but there's really nothing here for him. [/QUOTE]
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