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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 235837" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Learner,</p><p></p><p>There is one thing I don't think has been stressed enough here. And I may be totally wrong. But I doubt it.</p><p></p><p>If your son has been so bold as to tie you up with-o your permission, and with you begging him to stop, to gag you to keep you from begging, and to then leave you for an extended period of time (an hour), then to come back and threaten to torture you (tickling can be torture to some people), and then left you alone in the house, tied and gagged, then you have another thing to worry about.</p><p></p><p>Who else has he done this to? Because I sincerely doubt that you were the first person he tied up. You are at least somewhat of an authority figure to your son. You also would NOT be the first target of his curiosity, as this does have some sexual tones to it (domination).</p><p></p><p>So has he tied your daughter up and threatened her not to tell anyone? Or tied up a neighbor child, or an elderly person in your neighborhood? A classmate? A girl he took on a date and got to a private place?</p><p></p><p>I honestly think it extremely unlikely that eh chose YOU, his MOM, to act out this fantasy on first. Chances are he picked someone he could control much easier through being larger and stronger and through threats. </p><p></p><p>He also left you for an hour, and then left you alone in the house. This shows a degree of confidence that you couldn't get out. If this was his first time tying up someone he would not have that degree of confidence. </p><p></p><p>So you need to think about who else he has victimized, and who he is likely to victimize in the future. Since he was successful at tying you up and gagging you, and keeping you tied up for over an hour, he isn't going to just stop with some therapy.</p><p></p><p>He truly NEEDS a placement somewhere that can help him stop this fantasy AND keep him from doing it again. Someplace that can protect the rest of the community from him.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry. I KNOW it hurts to hear this about your son. And I KNOW how hard it can be to find help for this. But unless you find some kind of help, this will only escalate.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 235837, member: 1233"] Learner, There is one thing I don't think has been stressed enough here. And I may be totally wrong. But I doubt it. If your son has been so bold as to tie you up with-o your permission, and with you begging him to stop, to gag you to keep you from begging, and to then leave you for an extended period of time (an hour), then to come back and threaten to torture you (tickling can be torture to some people), and then left you alone in the house, tied and gagged, then you have another thing to worry about. Who else has he done this to? Because I sincerely doubt that you were the first person he tied up. You are at least somewhat of an authority figure to your son. You also would NOT be the first target of his curiosity, as this does have some sexual tones to it (domination). So has he tied your daughter up and threatened her not to tell anyone? Or tied up a neighbor child, or an elderly person in your neighborhood? A classmate? A girl he took on a date and got to a private place? I honestly think it extremely unlikely that eh chose YOU, his MOM, to act out this fantasy on first. Chances are he picked someone he could control much easier through being larger and stronger and through threats. He also left you for an hour, and then left you alone in the house. This shows a degree of confidence that you couldn't get out. If this was his first time tying up someone he would not have that degree of confidence. So you need to think about who else he has victimized, and who he is likely to victimize in the future. Since he was successful at tying you up and gagging you, and keeping you tied up for over an hour, he isn't going to just stop with some therapy. He truly NEEDS a placement somewhere that can help him stop this fantasy AND keep him from doing it again. Someplace that can protect the rest of the community from him. I am so sorry. I KNOW it hurts to hear this about your son. And I KNOW how hard it can be to find help for this. But unless you find some kind of help, this will only escalate. [/QUOTE]
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