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<blockquote data-quote="ck1" data-source="post: 88171" data-attributes="member: 3767"><p>(even Dancer is starting to get tired of me holding a firm line with McWeedy). </p><p></p><p>Really??? What firm line? From reading your posts, it seems that McWeedy is still running the show?</p><p></p><p>I have a question...if you had an employee reporting to you who wasn't doing a good job. He was coming in late, not doing what was expected of him, bad attitude, etc. would you fire him? Yes!!! but would you fire him now and tell him it will be effective three to four months from now??? Why would someone do that? It wouldn't motivate this employee to do a good job at your company and certainly wouldn't prepare him for future employment. It would tell him he can keep doing what he wants and continue getting paid, and probably when three or four months comes along, he'll get another extension.</p><p></p><p>One more thing, I have gotten very angry with my husband because I think he is way too hard on difficult child. I don't know if you've seen my posts or not, but my difficult child is 16 and has been out of our home since July 29th. At first I blamed it on husband. He brought the bottom up to difficult child knowing that we had to get difficult child more help. Also, when we had our first detention hearing, we were given two choices. difficult child could return home or go to a shelter while waiting for his hearing that would have been six to eight weeks away. husband adamantly refused to allow difficult child to come home. I couldn't imagine sending difficult child to a shelter, even though he had a very bad attitude. I wouldn't accept either so I fought and found a better place, something I wouldn't have done if I had had my way. </p><p></p><p>Again, I was furious with husband because he was being so mean to difficult child. Or so I thought, but he wasn't. He was right. It just took me time to see it and I think we're finally on a good road with difficult child, a bumpy one but headed in the right direction and difficult child is open to accepting the help he now knows he needs.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion, you need to do what's right for the WHOLE family. Not just husband and McWeedy. Eventually, wife will understand and probably agree you are looking out for the whole family. What's that quote??? "You have to stand for something or you'll fall for anything"??? Mikey, it very obvious you love your family more than anything in the world, follow your instincts...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ck1, post: 88171, member: 3767"] (even Dancer is starting to get tired of me holding a firm line with McWeedy). Really??? What firm line? From reading your posts, it seems that McWeedy is still running the show? I have a question...if you had an employee reporting to you who wasn't doing a good job. He was coming in late, not doing what was expected of him, bad attitude, etc. would you fire him? Yes!!! but would you fire him now and tell him it will be effective three to four months from now??? Why would someone do that? It wouldn't motivate this employee to do a good job at your company and certainly wouldn't prepare him for future employment. It would tell him he can keep doing what he wants and continue getting paid, and probably when three or four months comes along, he'll get another extension. One more thing, I have gotten very angry with my husband because I think he is way too hard on difficult child. I don't know if you've seen my posts or not, but my difficult child is 16 and has been out of our home since July 29th. At first I blamed it on husband. He brought the bottom up to difficult child knowing that we had to get difficult child more help. Also, when we had our first detention hearing, we were given two choices. difficult child could return home or go to a shelter while waiting for his hearing that would have been six to eight weeks away. husband adamantly refused to allow difficult child to come home. I couldn't imagine sending difficult child to a shelter, even though he had a very bad attitude. I wouldn't accept either so I fought and found a better place, something I wouldn't have done if I had had my way. Again, I was furious with husband because he was being so mean to difficult child. Or so I thought, but he wasn't. He was right. It just took me time to see it and I think we're finally on a good road with difficult child, a bumpy one but headed in the right direction and difficult child is open to accepting the help he now knows he needs. in my opinion, you need to do what's right for the WHOLE family. Not just husband and McWeedy. Eventually, wife will understand and probably agree you are looking out for the whole family. What's that quote??? "You have to stand for something or you'll fall for anything"??? Mikey, it very obvious you love your family more than anything in the world, follow your instincts... [/QUOTE]
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