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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 247358" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>With all respect, DDD, you don't think if someone is acting as case manager for your child but is forcing decisions that no one else (who sees/hears the evidence) agrees with and who is not taking action that their job requires in our county, that you shouldn't try to get that case manager changed, or at least go above their head so they can be over-ruled?And this is after efforts to get along with them better but they continue to treat you like the one who broke the law, when I have never been charged with anything- including neglect or not getting help for my child or anything else? And when she blatantly lies about things, like saying she didn't know difficult child was doing things to hurt himself, it's about the last straw for me. But, I can prove she's lieing. Others are starting to see this too- the PO admits she rec'd and read a copy of my letter to judge. That letter states that difficult child was self-harming. If she just didn't want to believe me, that does not mean that she was not informed. She was informed before I wrote that letter in Jan, but that was verbally. She probably rec'd a copy of his tdo in Dec., however, which lists that he was tdo'd for self-harming. </p><p></p><p>I don't want to just be defensive or disregard your wise advice. Really, I don't. But I can't imagine a parent who's trying to be proactive about their child's care taking all that lying down and just tolerating it, much less going along with it.</p><p></p><p>It will end up being me on trial on Moday- not PO and not difficult child. First, I'm the only witness about his lastest charge and there will be a defense attny and GAL who have to question me from difficult child's defense. This will lead to my efforts to get difficult child help before this transpired, which will lead to the fact that all efforts were kicked back to being PO's responsibility, which leads to the question of why didn't she do anything. The evidence that I am telling the truth will be there. I don't think I'll have to point the finger at her in court- the judge and others already know that I had this documented a month before and they know who's responsibility it was. They may very well ask me if I told PO about difficult child self-harming and being in acute psychiatric hospital in Dec and Jan, for instance, and I will testify that yes, I did, because it is the truth.</p><p></p><p>As far as difficult child's current situation, they will have to over-ride the PO or replace her as difficult child's cm if judge agrees to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because PO has already taken and said she is maintaining the position that difficult child should not get Residential Treatment Center (RTC). And it is PO who will be required at county meeting to get the paperwork needed for Residential Treatment Center (RTC)- which again, she will not do unless court ordered.</p><p></p><p>Also, I have told CA already that it will not work for difficult child to come home with this PO remaining in our lives. I have to stick to that because I know how it caused more harm than good both both of us. I also honestly believe that if this PO has to stay in difficult child's life, she will not treat another person taking care of him the same way she treats me- ie, undermining their authority and trying to micro-manage their household and ordering specific therapies just based on her parental opinions, not on the recommendations of the profs that have evaluation'd difficult child.</p><p></p><p>Let me just add: It's understandable that people would automatically give the PO the benefit of the doubt about things, just like they would take my mother's word over mine- until they meet the person and find out some details about some things, then they tend to view things differently. But just because things are <em>usually</em> a certain way doesn't mean they are always that way.</p><p></p><p>I truthfully do not know why the PO has an attitude of disrespect for me and seems to have a chip on her shoulder in general, based on what others tell me. I know you guys here can't be sure, but I KNOW that I did not start out with this attitude toward her. But 18 mos ago, the attny I hired to handle things when my bro file for custody told me that this PO was trying to find a way to find me in contempt of court orders. Why?</p><p></p><p>I hope it wouldn't be race- I can tell you that my personal physician (who gives my physicals and takes care of me when I'm sick), my previous neighbors, one of the tdocs we had, the person I voted for, and one of difficult child's "childhood sweethearts" are of the same ethnic group as the PO and her super, so I really don't think those are signs of someone who discriminates. It doesn't mean others couldn't discriminate against us or try to claim that though. It is unfortunate, and I would hope that isn't what is going on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 247358, member: 3699"] With all respect, DDD, you don't think if someone is acting as case manager for your child but is forcing decisions that no one else (who sees/hears the evidence) agrees with and who is not taking action that their job requires in our county, that you shouldn't try to get that case manager changed, or at least go above their head so they can be over-ruled?And this is after efforts to get along with them better but they continue to treat you like the one who broke the law, when I have never been charged with anything- including neglect or not getting help for my child or anything else? And when she blatantly lies about things, like saying she didn't know difficult child was doing things to hurt himself, it's about the last straw for me. But, I can prove she's lieing. Others are starting to see this too- the PO admits she rec'd and read a copy of my letter to judge. That letter states that difficult child was self-harming. If she just didn't want to believe me, that does not mean that she was not informed. She was informed before I wrote that letter in Jan, but that was verbally. She probably rec'd a copy of his tdo in Dec., however, which lists that he was tdo'd for self-harming. I don't want to just be defensive or disregard your wise advice. Really, I don't. But I can't imagine a parent who's trying to be proactive about their child's care taking all that lying down and just tolerating it, much less going along with it. It will end up being me on trial on Moday- not PO and not difficult child. First, I'm the only witness about his lastest charge and there will be a defense attny and GAL who have to question me from difficult child's defense. This will lead to my efforts to get difficult child help before this transpired, which will lead to the fact that all efforts were kicked back to being PO's responsibility, which leads to the question of why didn't she do anything. The evidence that I am telling the truth will be there. I don't think I'll have to point the finger at her in court- the judge and others already know that I had this documented a month before and they know who's responsibility it was. They may very well ask me if I told PO about difficult child self-harming and being in acute psychiatric hospital in Dec and Jan, for instance, and I will testify that yes, I did, because it is the truth. As far as difficult child's current situation, they will have to over-ride the PO or replace her as difficult child's cm if judge agrees to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because PO has already taken and said she is maintaining the position that difficult child should not get Residential Treatment Center (RTC). And it is PO who will be required at county meeting to get the paperwork needed for Residential Treatment Center (RTC)- which again, she will not do unless court ordered. Also, I have told CA already that it will not work for difficult child to come home with this PO remaining in our lives. I have to stick to that because I know how it caused more harm than good both both of us. I also honestly believe that if this PO has to stay in difficult child's life, she will not treat another person taking care of him the same way she treats me- ie, undermining their authority and trying to micro-manage their household and ordering specific therapies just based on her parental opinions, not on the recommendations of the profs that have evaluation'd difficult child. Let me just add: It's understandable that people would automatically give the PO the benefit of the doubt about things, just like they would take my mother's word over mine- until they meet the person and find out some details about some things, then they tend to view things differently. But just because things are [I]usually[/I] a certain way doesn't mean they are always that way. I truthfully do not know why the PO has an attitude of disrespect for me and seems to have a chip on her shoulder in general, based on what others tell me. I know you guys here can't be sure, but I KNOW that I did not start out with this attitude toward her. But 18 mos ago, the attny I hired to handle things when my bro file for custody told me that this PO was trying to find a way to find me in contempt of court orders. Why? I hope it wouldn't be race- I can tell you that my personal physician (who gives my physicals and takes care of me when I'm sick), my previous neighbors, one of the tdocs we had, the person I voted for, and one of difficult child's "childhood sweethearts" are of the same ethnic group as the PO and her super, so I really don't think those are signs of someone who discriminates. It doesn't mean others couldn't discriminate against us or try to claim that though. It is unfortunate, and I would hope that isn't what is going on. [/QUOTE]
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