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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 379867" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>Well, difficult child 1 has come to his breaking point. He's done so well the past two weeks - phenomenally well. But he got worked up before going over to girlfriend's mother's place this afternoon, very anxious, and then he and girlfriend were gone for several hours. I had to drive difficult child 2 and daughter back to college and called on my way home to check how it had gone; apparently husband called too, and tore a strip off difficult child 1 for being so long and for having not washed the brunch dishes before going out. husband did tell me, when I got home, that he had done this; he was getting worked up himself, over going in for night shift and being over-tired. When difficult child 1 and girlfriend got home, he was shaking and on the verge of a panic attack. The actual time at girlfriend's mother's place went fine; the mother apparently had taken a bunch of sedatives and slept the whole time. I guess she felt relaxed about difficult child 1 getting his stuff out, because last night she persuaded girlfriend to come back and sleep over/stay a few days at a time with her in the next few weeks, 'off and on', so that she can spend time with girlfriend and not have to be alone at night, have girlfriend 'help' her with various things (she always has girlfriend running around doing everything for her). So, basically, girlfriend has agreed to go back to mommy dearest while she's on medical leave and spend the occasional night here with difficult child 1. That was news to me tonight. It definitely contributed to difficult child 1's upset. </p><p></p><p>difficult child 1 has been so worked up all evening, though, that it wasn't possible to address girlfriend's decision to try to live with her mother and difficult child 1 at the same time, at different addresses. difficult child 1 was shaking, tearful, obsessive, desperately nervous about going back to work tomorrow, upset about husband's phone call, and generally overwhelmed and crashing. He was obsessing and repeating things over and over, the way he did when he was much younger. He took the last of girlfriend's lorazepam and if he hadn't, I think he'd have been cutting tonight. I don't know how he's going to cope at work this week. </p><p></p><p>He's done so well, but I guess things were bound to come apart at some point. As for girlfriend, I wish she would just go running back to mommy once and for all. Her mother will never let her go, and she's not mature enough to make the decision to have her own life. Unfortunately difficult child 1 seems very dependent on her and if she just left, I think he'd have a complete breakdown. So I'm biting my tongue until it bleeds.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 379867, member: 2884"] Well, difficult child 1 has come to his breaking point. He's done so well the past two weeks - phenomenally well. But he got worked up before going over to girlfriend's mother's place this afternoon, very anxious, and then he and girlfriend were gone for several hours. I had to drive difficult child 2 and daughter back to college and called on my way home to check how it had gone; apparently husband called too, and tore a strip off difficult child 1 for being so long and for having not washed the brunch dishes before going out. husband did tell me, when I got home, that he had done this; he was getting worked up himself, over going in for night shift and being over-tired. When difficult child 1 and girlfriend got home, he was shaking and on the verge of a panic attack. The actual time at girlfriend's mother's place went fine; the mother apparently had taken a bunch of sedatives and slept the whole time. I guess she felt relaxed about difficult child 1 getting his stuff out, because last night she persuaded girlfriend to come back and sleep over/stay a few days at a time with her in the next few weeks, 'off and on', so that she can spend time with girlfriend and not have to be alone at night, have girlfriend 'help' her with various things (she always has girlfriend running around doing everything for her). So, basically, girlfriend has agreed to go back to mommy dearest while she's on medical leave and spend the occasional night here with difficult child 1. That was news to me tonight. It definitely contributed to difficult child 1's upset. difficult child 1 has been so worked up all evening, though, that it wasn't possible to address girlfriend's decision to try to live with her mother and difficult child 1 at the same time, at different addresses. difficult child 1 was shaking, tearful, obsessive, desperately nervous about going back to work tomorrow, upset about husband's phone call, and generally overwhelmed and crashing. He was obsessing and repeating things over and over, the way he did when he was much younger. He took the last of girlfriend's lorazepam and if he hadn't, I think he'd have been cutting tonight. I don't know how he's going to cope at work this week. He's done so well, but I guess things were bound to come apart at some point. As for girlfriend, I wish she would just go running back to mommy once and for all. Her mother will never let her go, and she's not mature enough to make the decision to have her own life. Unfortunately difficult child 1 seems very dependent on her and if she just left, I think he'd have a complete breakdown. So I'm biting my tongue until it bleeds. [/QUOTE]
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