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<blockquote data-quote="MissLulu" data-source="post: 758393" data-attributes="member: 24721"><p>Dear Trying, </p><p></p><p>We were posting at the same time, so I have only just read your last post. If it were me, I would not get on a plane to go get him. </p><p></p><p>Obviously you know your son, so you are in a better position to judge this than me, but I'm wondering whether this is a real threat or just a way of manipulating you into getting you to deal with his problems? I say this because in the past my son has used threats of suicide to manipulate me. I'm not saying this is the case with your son, simply raising the possibility.</p><p></p><p>I think he treats you the way he does because you are his soft landing place. Like I am for my son. My son has often abused this. He knows I will love him no matter what, so he treats me badly. I have stopped tolerating that. I hope others will have advice to add, but I think if you can, I would stop trying to solve his problems and instead tell him that you love him and want the best for him and that he needs to work out a concrete plan for what happens next. Tell him when he does that you will let him know what help you are able to provide.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MissLulu, post: 758393, member: 24721"] Dear Trying, We were posting at the same time, so I have only just read your last post. If it were me, I would not get on a plane to go get him. Obviously you know your son, so you are in a better position to judge this than me, but I'm wondering whether this is a real threat or just a way of manipulating you into getting you to deal with his problems? I say this because in the past my son has used threats of suicide to manipulate me. I'm not saying this is the case with your son, simply raising the possibility. I think he treats you the way he does because you are his soft landing place. Like I am for my son. My son has often abused this. He knows I will love him no matter what, so he treats me badly. I have stopped tolerating that. I hope others will have advice to add, but I think if you can, I would stop trying to solve his problems and instead tell him that you love him and want the best for him and that he needs to work out a concrete plan for what happens next. Tell him when he does that you will let him know what help you are able to provide. [/QUOTE]
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