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Well. Our children will decide who they are and what they want to be and what they want to have.


I am dealing with this, too. My son took a political position so completely contrary to my own that I was stunned and sputtering. Until I forgot it.


The whole thing of this endeavor, this detaching, is that they clean up the messes they make. Their incentive to do so is that they are the ones living in that mess. Not us.


In the short run it is very hard on us. On them? Not so much, unfortunately. For now he can blame "the illegals" who do not have any illusions about how much their parents will be able to help them. Those illegals are sending money back to Guatemala or Mexico to help their parents survive.


Let him spout his mouth off. Do your best to keep distance. Let him be who he needs to be. He will work this out. He thinks life is going his way. He will see how far he can play his sense of entitlement and deserving.


I feel bad that for now he seems to want to use "the other" as a means to deflect responsibility for himself. Let us see where he goes with this. For now, take care of yourself. We will wait.


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