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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 435034" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>I think your neighbor attacked you to put you off the issue at hand. Next time just calmly say "I came over here to ask you if you would kindly leave me a space to park. My son and his upbringing and difficulties are not up for discussion at this time. If you have a specific complaint, such as my son destroyed your property, I will hear your complaint but if you are repeating gossip and conjecture I will have none of it."</p><p> </p><p>My other concern is possibly one of cultural differences but quite honestly I would never let a 4 year old to run the neighborhood unsupervised. I especially would not leave a 4 year old with ADHD out and about unsupervised. I know how hard this is because I have been in your shoes with my difficult child. However I did not give in to him and the difficulty of keeping him supervised at all times. He did "escape" on a few occassions and it led to no good. I ended up installing an alarm so I could go to the bathroom without him seizing the moment to run out the door. </p><p> </p><p>If you cannot supervise him by yourself (and I admit it can be exhausting), I suggest you hire an older child who is responsible and caring to shadow him while he is out playing and report back to you any bad behaviors. These behaviors should be met with consistent consequences. </p><p> </p><p>If you are going to raise this child, either with or without help and support, you have a responsibility to teach him appropriate behaviors for the culture in which he resides. Otherwise he will never be treated well and that will be devastating for him. -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 435034, member: 2315"] I think your neighbor attacked you to put you off the issue at hand. Next time just calmly say "I came over here to ask you if you would kindly leave me a space to park. My son and his upbringing and difficulties are not up for discussion at this time. If you have a specific complaint, such as my son destroyed your property, I will hear your complaint but if you are repeating gossip and conjecture I will have none of it." My other concern is possibly one of cultural differences but quite honestly I would never let a 4 year old to run the neighborhood unsupervised. I especially would not leave a 4 year old with ADHD out and about unsupervised. I know how hard this is because I have been in your shoes with my difficult child. However I did not give in to him and the difficulty of keeping him supervised at all times. He did "escape" on a few occassions and it led to no good. I ended up installing an alarm so I could go to the bathroom without him seizing the moment to run out the door. If you cannot supervise him by yourself (and I admit it can be exhausting), I suggest you hire an older child who is responsible and caring to shadow him while he is out playing and report back to you any bad behaviors. These behaviors should be met with consistent consequences. If you are going to raise this child, either with or without help and support, you have a responsibility to teach him appropriate behaviors for the culture in which he resides. Otherwise he will never be treated well and that will be devastating for him. -RM [/QUOTE]
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