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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 435046" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>3S: Yes, you hit the nail on the head! It is one of those "ancient villages" with generations of people being born and dying here and I have begun to realise that however outwardly friendly people are, we will never "belong", never truly be from here...</p><p>Rejectedmom: I feel you too have hit the nail on the head. The issue in the village IS that I have let J go out by himself for short periods, unsupervised. It's difficult to explain the set up - it's like a little protected maze, alleyways without cars and a church with a village green where the few other children around sometimes play unsupervised. I have fallen into a false sense of complacency because J is always SO insistent about going off like this (as a friend said today, who has a easy child child who when younger behaved very much like a difficult child, other people would not understand how a 4 year old could be so insistent and hard to contain but she does...). Also when I was a child I played out like this (in a quiet residential neighbourhood) from a young age and it doesn't "shock" me. But I think J is annoying people when he is out by himself, maybe doing silly or even dangerous things and unfortunately I just cannot let him by himself any more. I think you make a good and fair point that he needs to adapt to the cultural norms here - perhaps another reason why Morocco would be a more fitted environment for him. We are soon to go to Morocco for the summer, where J will spend a good amount of time with my ex-husband and his family. But I don't know that holiday visits are enough...</p><p>DDD: thanks for your supportive words. Yes, the medication decision is a REALLY tough one. We are not there yet - he is only four and here in Europe it's really rare for kids under 6 to be medicated for ADHD. No-one has suggested it yet. If I felt it would make a big difference to J's social/school life, of course I would consider it... Makes me sad though to contemplate it, if that makes sense! I am sure many people here understand that dilemma.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 435046, member: 11227"] 3S: Yes, you hit the nail on the head! It is one of those "ancient villages" with generations of people being born and dying here and I have begun to realise that however outwardly friendly people are, we will never "belong", never truly be from here... Rejectedmom: I feel you too have hit the nail on the head. The issue in the village IS that I have let J go out by himself for short periods, unsupervised. It's difficult to explain the set up - it's like a little protected maze, alleyways without cars and a church with a village green where the few other children around sometimes play unsupervised. I have fallen into a false sense of complacency because J is always SO insistent about going off like this (as a friend said today, who has a easy child child who when younger behaved very much like a difficult child, other people would not understand how a 4 year old could be so insistent and hard to contain but she does...). Also when I was a child I played out like this (in a quiet residential neighbourhood) from a young age and it doesn't "shock" me. But I think J is annoying people when he is out by himself, maybe doing silly or even dangerous things and unfortunately I just cannot let him by himself any more. I think you make a good and fair point that he needs to adapt to the cultural norms here - perhaps another reason why Morocco would be a more fitted environment for him. We are soon to go to Morocco for the summer, where J will spend a good amount of time with my ex-husband and his family. But I don't know that holiday visits are enough... DDD: thanks for your supportive words. Yes, the medication decision is a REALLY tough one. We are not there yet - he is only four and here in Europe it's really rare for kids under 6 to be medicated for ADHD. No-one has suggested it yet. If I felt it would make a big difference to J's social/school life, of course I would consider it... Makes me sad though to contemplate it, if that makes sense! I am sure many people here understand that dilemma. [/QUOTE]
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