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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 435075" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Hey, guys, some really supportive comments - thank you <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Yes, "disagreeable and judgemental" about sums my neighbour up. He is also something of a bully... </p><p>The universe has a sense of humour sometimes. When I picked J up froms school, I told the assistant what had happened and asked her whether things were going on at school that I didn't know about. She seemed surprised: "No, no," she said. "J has fitted in really well, he's a part of our school community, he's made good progress," etc. So far, so good. She also went on to say that village gossip, especially in this region, is in her experience idle and nasty. As we were talking, however, there was an incident and another little boy began crying, his tooth bleeding. I didn't see what happened but seems J and he had been playing, J had pushed the other boy too roughly and he had fallen against a table. Luckily, the tooth was okay. Just then another parent came to collect his child, who went up to him excitedly saying "J has hurt M! He pushed him on the table! There's blood!" You can just imagine the juicy bit of gossip that might emerge out of THAT...</p><p>I know it seems surprising and strange that J runs around by himself. It's hard to explain, as I say - while in some ways I am sure he is "behind" developmentally, in other ways he is ahead. He just seems so streetwise and smart, and does have some sense of danger and things he should and should not do. But I must be realistic; he IS just four and it IS better that I stay with him. Maybe (if we stay here!!) he will be old enough and trustworthy enough to go out by himself like this in a year or so. It's his initiative I should point out - sounds like you really understand, Terry! - because if he were not so insistent on his "independence", I would not let him go out like this...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 435075, member: 11227"] Hey, guys, some really supportive comments - thank you :-) Yes, "disagreeable and judgemental" about sums my neighbour up. He is also something of a bully... The universe has a sense of humour sometimes. When I picked J up froms school, I told the assistant what had happened and asked her whether things were going on at school that I didn't know about. She seemed surprised: "No, no," she said. "J has fitted in really well, he's a part of our school community, he's made good progress," etc. So far, so good. She also went on to say that village gossip, especially in this region, is in her experience idle and nasty. As we were talking, however, there was an incident and another little boy began crying, his tooth bleeding. I didn't see what happened but seems J and he had been playing, J had pushed the other boy too roughly and he had fallen against a table. Luckily, the tooth was okay. Just then another parent came to collect his child, who went up to him excitedly saying "J has hurt M! He pushed him on the table! There's blood!" You can just imagine the juicy bit of gossip that might emerge out of THAT... I know it seems surprising and strange that J runs around by himself. It's hard to explain, as I say - while in some ways I am sure he is "behind" developmentally, in other ways he is ahead. He just seems so streetwise and smart, and does have some sense of danger and things he should and should not do. But I must be realistic; he IS just four and it IS better that I stay with him. Maybe (if we stay here!!) he will be old enough and trustworthy enough to go out by himself like this in a year or so. It's his initiative I should point out - sounds like you really understand, Terry! - because if he were not so insistent on his "independence", I would not let him go out like this... [/QUOTE]
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