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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 435239" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>I know, HaoZi - but the extraodinary thing is that here it is NOT normal. Here children are expected to obey when their parents ask/tell them to do something. </p><p>About the speaking to adults as if they were children, it's not to do with names but a tone of voice, a way of speaking. Usually when kids speak to adults there is a certain difference in their tone of voice, that might be called respect, for want of a better word J doesn't talk like that - he might go up to an adult, for example, and saying something like "Hey, what are you doing?" Other children here would not speak like that. Also in French there are two ways of saying "you" - tu and vous. Tu being the intimate form used for children, animals (!), your nearest and dearest and close friends... Children would always use "vous" to adults outside the family circle but J hasn't even cottoned on to this difference. None of this fazes me very much - but if it continued like that, in a few years' time it would faze people here...</p><p>Just for the record, I talked this morning to the other classroom assistant from J's school, who lives in the village. She was very nice and sympathetic and repeated what the other assistant had said - J is turbulent and noisy but he never hits other children on purpose, is good in class and very affectionate. "He's a nice boy," she said. And also that they have had boys in the past more turbulent than he... She also said that her own family were on chilly terms with my neighbours because of their unreasonable behaviour. The guy is a bully behaving like the lord of the manor... Another opportunity for practising the assertiveness that I sometimes find difficult!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 435239, member: 11227"] I know, HaoZi - but the extraodinary thing is that here it is NOT normal. Here children are expected to obey when their parents ask/tell them to do something. About the speaking to adults as if they were children, it's not to do with names but a tone of voice, a way of speaking. Usually when kids speak to adults there is a certain difference in their tone of voice, that might be called respect, for want of a better word J doesn't talk like that - he might go up to an adult, for example, and saying something like "Hey, what are you doing?" Other children here would not speak like that. Also in French there are two ways of saying "you" - tu and vous. Tu being the intimate form used for children, animals (!), your nearest and dearest and close friends... Children would always use "vous" to adults outside the family circle but J hasn't even cottoned on to this difference. None of this fazes me very much - but if it continued like that, in a few years' time it would faze people here... Just for the record, I talked this morning to the other classroom assistant from J's school, who lives in the village. She was very nice and sympathetic and repeated what the other assistant had said - J is turbulent and noisy but he never hits other children on purpose, is good in class and very affectionate. "He's a nice boy," she said. And also that they have had boys in the past more turbulent than he... She also said that her own family were on chilly terms with my neighbours because of their unreasonable behaviour. The guy is a bully behaving like the lord of the manor... Another opportunity for practising the assertiveness that I sometimes find difficult!! [/QUOTE]
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