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Upsetting phone call from 34yo Difficult Child
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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 659840" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Oh SS, I'm sorry you had to go through that. For what it's worth, I think you handled it perfectly. It sounds like your gut was right when you suspected he was paving the way for something he wanted. He must have seen this day was coming.</p><p></p><p>My take on it is that Ex-girlfriend's grandmother (EGGM) has mastered the art of those benign comments we all aspire to, and Difficult Child is reshaping that to try to garner a little sympathy from you. I picture a conversation something like this:</p><p></p><p>EGGM: Difficult Child, I'm sorry, but now that you and Ex-girlfriend have broken up I really think it is time for you to think about moving on.</p><p></p><p>Difficult Child: But I have nowhere to go! And my parents are a couple of SOBs who have done A, B, and C to me!</p><p></p><p>EGGM: Mmmm...that sounds terrible.</p><p></p><p>Difficult Child: And D, E, and F!</p><p></p><p>EGGM: Mmmmm...I'm sorry to hear that.</p><p></p><p>Difficult Child: AND my sisters got nicer cars when we were teenagers!</p><p></p><p>EGGM: Mmmm...that sounds very tough....you will be out by the end of the week, right?</p><p></p><p>I agree with not texting him. Don't engage him, and I know it's easier said than done but try not to even engage mentally. And I agree that there is a reason he wants to do this in person. He wants to make it harder for you to refuse whatever it is he wants.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 659840, member: 17720"] Oh SS, I'm sorry you had to go through that. For what it's worth, I think you handled it perfectly. It sounds like your gut was right when you suspected he was paving the way for something he wanted. He must have seen this day was coming. My take on it is that Ex-girlfriend's grandmother (EGGM) has mastered the art of those benign comments we all aspire to, and Difficult Child is reshaping that to try to garner a little sympathy from you. I picture a conversation something like this: EGGM: Difficult Child, I'm sorry, but now that you and Ex-girlfriend have broken up I really think it is time for you to think about moving on. Difficult Child: But I have nowhere to go! And my parents are a couple of SOBs who have done A, B, and C to me! EGGM: Mmmm...that sounds terrible. Difficult Child: And D, E, and F! EGGM: Mmmmm...I'm sorry to hear that. Difficult Child: AND my sisters got nicer cars when we were teenagers! EGGM: Mmmm...that sounds very tough....you will be out by the end of the week, right? I agree with not texting him. Don't engage him, and I know it's easier said than done but try not to even engage mentally. And I agree that there is a reason he wants to do this in person. He wants to make it harder for you to refuse whatever it is he wants. [/QUOTE]
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