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<blockquote data-quote="Stress Bunny" data-source="post: 626247" data-attributes="member: 4855"><p>Well, JT followed up on last night's text, texting me again today to ask whether or not I received his text from last night. First of all, he always texts me from work, and he's not supposed to be using his phone during work hours. I have told him that I won't contribute to him losing his job. He claims his supervisor doesn't care. Doesn't care or doesn't know? Either way, I won't respond to texts during his work hours. Of course, since I said that I don't think it's a good idea for him to text during his work hours, that's now the only time he ever does text me. The defiance goes to such petty levels.</p><p></p><p>MWM - Thanks, I hadn't thought of having a separate time with difficult child on Mothers Day, but that is a definite option. I expect him to seek attention regarding this latest news. It's always all about him. You're right that he certainly won't make a decent parent. But, he'll already be ousted from this child's life before birth, as there is no doubt the mother will not want him to be part of it. I know your 36 is a challenging person to communicate with, and I'm glad you have other children who are more honorable people. I have a 13 yo Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) boy, who has some very difficult moments behaviorally, and I just pray he doesn't turn out like JT. That would be devastating to have both kids end up like that. I have a great deal of anxiety about it.</p><p></p><p>Echo, you bring up a great point about JT's needs superceding everyone else's. I guess I somehow continue to feel obligated to be a "good mom". And I want things to be alright. The truth is things are not alright. Not one bit. My husband can't stand JT and really wants to detach from him completely. With Bubby, it's out of sight and out of mind. He is in the moment, and since JT no longer lives with us, Bubby seems to be okay with getting all of the attention. The grandparents and other relatives are all extremely disappointed in JT. They think he doesn't know how good he's had it. They believe he has wasted his opportunities and made relationships with him very difficult. I feel embarrassed, ashamed, and brokenhearted about JT's choices. Every week, he seems to settle into a new low with everything. I find myself resenting all of the years of my life I wasted trying to raise him well. All of the years of perfectly good days ruined by his behavior. It's like a nightmare that never ends.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Stress Bunny, post: 626247, member: 4855"] Well, JT followed up on last night's text, texting me again today to ask whether or not I received his text from last night. First of all, he always texts me from work, and he's not supposed to be using his phone during work hours. I have told him that I won't contribute to him losing his job. He claims his supervisor doesn't care. Doesn't care or doesn't know? Either way, I won't respond to texts during his work hours. Of course, since I said that I don't think it's a good idea for him to text during his work hours, that's now the only time he ever does text me. The defiance goes to such petty levels. MWM - Thanks, I hadn't thought of having a separate time with difficult child on Mothers Day, but that is a definite option. I expect him to seek attention regarding this latest news. It's always all about him. You're right that he certainly won't make a decent parent. But, he'll already be ousted from this child's life before birth, as there is no doubt the mother will not want him to be part of it. I know your 36 is a challenging person to communicate with, and I'm glad you have other children who are more honorable people. I have a 13 yo Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) boy, who has some very difficult moments behaviorally, and I just pray he doesn't turn out like JT. That would be devastating to have both kids end up like that. I have a great deal of anxiety about it. Echo, you bring up a great point about JT's needs superceding everyone else's. I guess I somehow continue to feel obligated to be a "good mom". And I want things to be alright. The truth is things are not alright. Not one bit. My husband can't stand JT and really wants to detach from him completely. With Bubby, it's out of sight and out of mind. He is in the moment, and since JT no longer lives with us, Bubby seems to be okay with getting all of the attention. The grandparents and other relatives are all extremely disappointed in JT. They think he doesn't know how good he's had it. They believe he has wasted his opportunities and made relationships with him very difficult. I feel embarrassed, ashamed, and brokenhearted about JT's choices. Every week, he seems to settle into a new low with everything. I find myself resenting all of the years of my life I wasted trying to raise him well. All of the years of perfectly good days ruined by his behavior. It's like a nightmare that never ends. [/QUOTE]
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