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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 629219" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I do not know how close you are to the family, or how the family would feel about this, so of course you may upset someone if you do this. I would sit down with a phone book or list of churches and start calling one after another. I would explain to each that Beth died fairly suddenly and did not have any resources and her family cannot afford the $7000 that is the cheapest burial that can be found in the area. Does the pastor/reverend/priest have any ability to help by donating to the fund, asking members of his church to donate or does he have any names/phone numbers of groups that could help?</p><p></p><p>Also the family may not know that the coroner's office should have some resources to point them to if they ask. Every area will have pauper's graves/cremation, and they should ask what is done if the family cannot afford to bury the person. The funeral home is required by law to tell them what the parts of the service cost and they should check online for things. It may sound odd, but deals can be found online for funerals, caskets etc... The funeral market is a HUGE racket and no matter what the funeral home says, those markups on caskets, flowers, etc... are often simply astounding.</p><p></p><p>Example 1 - for my adopted gpa's funeral the funeral home served cookies. Stale, walmart brand oreos and peanut butter sandwich cookies. They wanted to charge $150 for the 2 plates of stale cookies. Plates that did not hold an entire bag. They literally spent less than $5 for those cookies and thought they would get $145 for the extra special addition of stale. I knew we had chosen to not have their cookies because I spent all night baking cookies to take on my disposable trays. I spent maybe $10, we had great cookies for everyone (not just the 50 people who could have gotten one of those stale cookies) and my adopted gma did not get that crazy cookie price included on her bill. </p><p></p><p>Example 2 - Many funeral homes allow you to do a slideshow or montage of photos and videos for use during the visitation and service. Fees for this can be as much as renting a recording studio for a few hours. The fee to put together a 10 min looping presentation for my adopted gpa's funeral was quoted at over $2500. Not for playing the cd, for putting it together. The guy who does this is someone I went to school with and it takes maybe 30 min of his time. That is IF the family brings in total koi on a system that doesn't work with his AND he has to get rid of a virus at the same time. ANY work that takes more than 30 min is billed separately as something else and usually costs the family around $100 per hour of extra time as it is 'involved'.</p><p></p><p>My dad put together a slideshow of family photos and set the music up. All that the home had to do was to put the disc into the drive. </p><p></p><p>Often people are quoted packages and are not told what is in the package, much less the cost of each item included. By asking about each item/expense, you can often find th grossly inflated cookie pricing and other ways the bill is being padded.</p><p></p><p>I am so very sorry that easy child's sister in law's mom died. I hope this helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 629219, member: 1233"] I do not know how close you are to the family, or how the family would feel about this, so of course you may upset someone if you do this. I would sit down with a phone book or list of churches and start calling one after another. I would explain to each that Beth died fairly suddenly and did not have any resources and her family cannot afford the $7000 that is the cheapest burial that can be found in the area. Does the pastor/reverend/priest have any ability to help by donating to the fund, asking members of his church to donate or does he have any names/phone numbers of groups that could help? Also the family may not know that the coroner's office should have some resources to point them to if they ask. Every area will have pauper's graves/cremation, and they should ask what is done if the family cannot afford to bury the person. The funeral home is required by law to tell them what the parts of the service cost and they should check online for things. It may sound odd, but deals can be found online for funerals, caskets etc... The funeral market is a HUGE racket and no matter what the funeral home says, those markups on caskets, flowers, etc... are often simply astounding. Example 1 - for my adopted gpa's funeral the funeral home served cookies. Stale, walmart brand oreos and peanut butter sandwich cookies. They wanted to charge $150 for the 2 plates of stale cookies. Plates that did not hold an entire bag. They literally spent less than $5 for those cookies and thought they would get $145 for the extra special addition of stale. I knew we had chosen to not have their cookies because I spent all night baking cookies to take on my disposable trays. I spent maybe $10, we had great cookies for everyone (not just the 50 people who could have gotten one of those stale cookies) and my adopted gma did not get that crazy cookie price included on her bill. Example 2 - Many funeral homes allow you to do a slideshow or montage of photos and videos for use during the visitation and service. Fees for this can be as much as renting a recording studio for a few hours. The fee to put together a 10 min looping presentation for my adopted gpa's funeral was quoted at over $2500. Not for playing the cd, for putting it together. The guy who does this is someone I went to school with and it takes maybe 30 min of his time. That is IF the family brings in total koi on a system that doesn't work with his AND he has to get rid of a virus at the same time. ANY work that takes more than 30 min is billed separately as something else and usually costs the family around $100 per hour of extra time as it is 'involved'. My dad put together a slideshow of family photos and set the music up. All that the home had to do was to put the disc into the drive. Often people are quoted packages and are not told what is in the package, much less the cost of each item included. By asking about each item/expense, you can often find th grossly inflated cookie pricing and other ways the bill is being padded. I am so very sorry that easy child's sister in law's mom died. I hope this helps. [/QUOTE]
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