Janet, I decided a few years ago that I had broad shoulder and could take any blame difficult child threw my way. I know later in life she will be dishing it out big time. I can handle it. I know in my heart I did everything I could for her. She can keep her misguided memories, I know the real deal.
Just nod and agree is what I plan to do. It will keep the arguing to a minimum!
I know it is tough to be around a kid that thinks this way though. Try to let it roll.