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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 27766" data-attributes="member: 393"><p>The "art" of detachment is a hard learned life skill for parents of difficult children. (I apologize for my whine earlier in this thread - I was physically exhausted yesterday.)</p><p></p><p>MWM, I will correct, redirect or firmly tell kt there is no argument here & then tell her I love her. Or I ask her to "redo" that with an immediate I love you. It does help. Many times I comment "thank you for sharing".</p><p></p><p>I've had to learn to put up this wall - to compartmentalize, if you will, what is screamed at me in the midst of a rage. However, I still look for an apology. kt has an apology plan - it's written on paper.</p><p></p><p>She has to state what she does wrong, why it was wrong & how she will do it differently next time. Sometimes it works, others not so much.</p><p></p><p>Sharon, verbal abuse, like any other abuse, becomes degrading to the spirit. I believe that it is much harder to take from our children (illness or not). I try to find the humor in the situation (being called son of a bit#h, brings an immediate, wrong gender comment - more or less stops kt & wm in their tracks).</p><p></p><p>Take care of yourself, lady. You are a delightful lady - don't let this drag you down.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 27766, member: 393"] The "art" of detachment is a hard learned life skill for parents of difficult children. (I apologize for my whine earlier in this thread - I was physically exhausted yesterday.) MWM, I will correct, redirect or firmly tell kt there is no argument here & then tell her I love her. Or I ask her to "redo" that with an immediate I love you. It does help. Many times I comment "thank you for sharing". I've had to learn to put up this wall - to compartmentalize, if you will, what is screamed at me in the midst of a rage. However, I still look for an apology. kt has an apology plan - it's written on paper. She has to state what she does wrong, why it was wrong & how she will do it differently next time. Sometimes it works, others not so much. Sharon, verbal abuse, like any other abuse, becomes degrading to the spirit. I believe that it is much harder to take from our children (illness or not). I try to find the humor in the situation (being called son of a bit#h, brings an immediate, wrong gender comment - more or less stops kt & wm in their tracks). Take care of yourself, lady. You are a delightful lady - don't let this drag you down. [/QUOTE]
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