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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 35740" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Terry,</p><p></p><p>I didn't know you took your difficult child to see Dr. Riley. I tried finding the post about it but couldn't. I've read his books and they helped me a great deal.</p><p></p><p>Our situations are very similar, we both have biological easy child's five years older than our adopted difficult child's. What is their relationship like? My easy child and difficult child do not get along to this day, difficult child is very jealous that easy child is biological.</p><p></p><p>I had to chuckle because when my difficult child had to spend the weekend in juvie detention, the thing that most disturbed her was that she had to wear their used underwear, granny panties. She thought that was gross. The judge sized up our situation also and guessed right, that our difficult child was going to get the shock of her lifetime in juvie, and all her tough talk about how she would do fine in juvie was just an act. She hated it, was scared out of her mind, cried real tears which she never did, and came out a changed kid. I was afraid she would think we were abandoning her and she would hate us for putting her there because we were dealing with some adoption issues at the time. But she didn't blame us at all and decided she didn't want to live that way anymore.</p><p></p><p>Your son's rages sound very much like our daughter's were. There were times when I had to pull the car over and wait for it to be over because she would open the door as the car was moving and kick and throw things in the car. In hindsight you probably shouldnot have reminded your son about Dr. Riley's conversation while driving the car. I often, even to this day, would remind my difficult child of some consequence if she continued to do what she was doing in the hopes that it would make her change her behavior. It never did/does. I would have been better off to save my breath and just let her face the consequences at the time.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry I don't know what medications your son is on but have you tried a mood stabilzer? My difficult child has reacted very well to Lamictal. It is the only medication of all we have tried that has helped her control her impulses and anger. She no longer rages and we have had only a couple incidents where her anger has been out of control in the past year and those have been nothing like in the past.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 35740, member: 59"] Terry, I didn't know you took your difficult child to see Dr. Riley. I tried finding the post about it but couldn't. I've read his books and they helped me a great deal. Our situations are very similar, we both have biological easy child's five years older than our adopted difficult child's. What is their relationship like? My easy child and difficult child do not get along to this day, difficult child is very jealous that easy child is biological. I had to chuckle because when my difficult child had to spend the weekend in juvie detention, the thing that most disturbed her was that she had to wear their used underwear, granny panties. She thought that was gross. The judge sized up our situation also and guessed right, that our difficult child was going to get the shock of her lifetime in juvie, and all her tough talk about how she would do fine in juvie was just an act. She hated it, was scared out of her mind, cried real tears which she never did, and came out a changed kid. I was afraid she would think we were abandoning her and she would hate us for putting her there because we were dealing with some adoption issues at the time. But she didn't blame us at all and decided she didn't want to live that way anymore. Your son's rages sound very much like our daughter's were. There were times when I had to pull the car over and wait for it to be over because she would open the door as the car was moving and kick and throw things in the car. In hindsight you probably shouldnot have reminded your son about Dr. Riley's conversation while driving the car. I often, even to this day, would remind my difficult child of some consequence if she continued to do what she was doing in the hopes that it would make her change her behavior. It never did/does. I would have been better off to save my breath and just let her face the consequences at the time. I'm sorry I don't know what medications your son is on but have you tried a mood stabilzer? My difficult child has reacted very well to Lamictal. It is the only medication of all we have tried that has helped her control her impulses and anger. She no longer rages and we have had only a couple incidents where her anger has been out of control in the past year and those have been nothing like in the past. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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