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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 492888" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>gosh, so sorry for his family and for him. i think it is in HIS best interest (as well as the family's) to go to a placement due to protective issues. If something happens they will not have as many choices for therapeutic placement. Once a sexual assault is in his file there may not be as much flexibility. Sounds like he needs something like the PNP center but I am sure that is so far and expensive. I have thought of this myself for Q. There is maybe such facilities around closer though if you call them and ask if there are others who do similar assessments which include PET scans and neuropsychologist, psychiatric, medical, neurological etc. <a href="http://www.lawlispeavey.com/" target="_blank">PNP Center</a></p><p></p><p>Probably that is unrealistic but a therapeutic placement is not giving up....I know this for myself too. It is another way of parenting if we get to that point. Of course we try first all we can do to give the child a typical home but for this child, sounds like he is vulnerable to his own issues which could truly ruin his life. For his sake, my heart says he needs them to advocate for a really good placement for him. There is no way to know at his age/stage of development...since he has not acted out....if he knows what that even means. It could be just that he has urges and who else would he be able to experiment on? No matter what it really is, he could end up hurting someone so he deserves a chance (as do potential victims and those who dodge his aggressive outbursts) to be somewhere where they can really keep him safe from himself. When he is with them for visits etc. they will also have the energy and mental health to deal with him on a short term basis. So sad, he is just a little guy. A really broken and hurt little guy. </p><p></p><p>I feel just terrible for your friends. They adopted him to give him a good life. But they can still feel like they are giving him his best chance and others may not be able to handle that. Maybe that is exactly why they are the ones who are his parents....because they can do this. They can be the ones to make the tough decisions out of love not crisis. </p><p></p><p>Just MHO from this little bit of their life. Of course it is all up to them. Please tell them I think they are amazing for the life choices they have made.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 492888, member: 12886"] gosh, so sorry for his family and for him. i think it is in HIS best interest (as well as the family's) to go to a placement due to protective issues. If something happens they will not have as many choices for therapeutic placement. Once a sexual assault is in his file there may not be as much flexibility. Sounds like he needs something like the PNP center but I am sure that is so far and expensive. I have thought of this myself for Q. There is maybe such facilities around closer though if you call them and ask if there are others who do similar assessments which include PET scans and neuropsychologist, psychiatric, medical, neurological etc. [URL="http://www.lawlispeavey.com/"]PNP Center[/URL] Probably that is unrealistic but a therapeutic placement is not giving up....I know this for myself too. It is another way of parenting if we get to that point. Of course we try first all we can do to give the child a typical home but for this child, sounds like he is vulnerable to his own issues which could truly ruin his life. For his sake, my heart says he needs them to advocate for a really good placement for him. There is no way to know at his age/stage of development...since he has not acted out....if he knows what that even means. It could be just that he has urges and who else would he be able to experiment on? No matter what it really is, he could end up hurting someone so he deserves a chance (as do potential victims and those who dodge his aggressive outbursts) to be somewhere where they can really keep him safe from himself. When he is with them for visits etc. they will also have the energy and mental health to deal with him on a short term basis. So sad, he is just a little guy. A really broken and hurt little guy. I feel just terrible for your friends. They adopted him to give him a good life. But they can still feel like they are giving him his best chance and others may not be able to handle that. Maybe that is exactly why they are the ones who are his parents....because they can do this. They can be the ones to make the tough decisions out of love not crisis. Just MHO from this little bit of their life. Of course it is all up to them. Please tell them I think they are amazing for the life choices they have made. [/QUOTE]
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