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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 492937" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>The boy NEEDS a placement away from younger children. He cannot be kept safe in a home. If he hasn't hurt someone, he knows he might and is begging for help. Keeping him at home puts everyone in danger. If it has happened, and they don't put him in a placement but it is learned of in a couple of years, they could lose ALL the kids because they "allowed" him to perp on the other children in the family after they had ample warning that he wanted to. I am NOT saying it is right, just that a young/overzealous/unrealistic social worker or DA could do that and it would damage ALL of their kids.</p><p></p><p>Not all people can safely life n a family setting. it is what it is. It would be best to get intensive treatment in a setting where he couldn't access younger kids. Soon the hormones of puberty will take a LOT of things out of his hands and it could be a catastrophe for the entire family or even community if it got out. I have seen communities turn on a family with a sick child like this that they were doing EVERYTHING to help but it didn't stop the child - and the parents lost the kids, the home, the jobs, everything they every owned was GONE because the community turned on them. Warn your friends - it can happen in any community. </p><p></p><p>NOT that they should stop loving him - he NEEDS them. Just that they need to be a family of different addresses to protect everyone. I am sure he wouldn't purposely want to hurt someoen lke that, but he needs intensive help so that he can learn to handle those impulses.</p><p></p><p>I am so osrry they are facing this, and I hope they know how much he loves and trusts them to tell them about his attraction to little kids. in my opinion that makes him one heck of a special person, someone to support and help as intensively as possible. NOT soemone to throw away as deviant.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 492937, member: 1233"] The boy NEEDS a placement away from younger children. He cannot be kept safe in a home. If he hasn't hurt someone, he knows he might and is begging for help. Keeping him at home puts everyone in danger. If it has happened, and they don't put him in a placement but it is learned of in a couple of years, they could lose ALL the kids because they "allowed" him to perp on the other children in the family after they had ample warning that he wanted to. I am NOT saying it is right, just that a young/overzealous/unrealistic social worker or DA could do that and it would damage ALL of their kids. Not all people can safely life n a family setting. it is what it is. It would be best to get intensive treatment in a setting where he couldn't access younger kids. Soon the hormones of puberty will take a LOT of things out of his hands and it could be a catastrophe for the entire family or even community if it got out. I have seen communities turn on a family with a sick child like this that they were doing EVERYTHING to help but it didn't stop the child - and the parents lost the kids, the home, the jobs, everything they every owned was GONE because the community turned on them. Warn your friends - it can happen in any community. NOT that they should stop loving him - he NEEDS them. Just that they need to be a family of different addresses to protect everyone. I am sure he wouldn't purposely want to hurt someoen lke that, but he needs intensive help so that he can learn to handle those impulses. I am so osrry they are facing this, and I hope they know how much he loves and trusts them to tell them about his attraction to little kids. in my opinion that makes him one heck of a special person, someone to support and help as intensively as possible. NOT soemone to throw away as deviant. [/QUOTE]
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