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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 542393" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>It took me a long time to "get" this. But... just because I did everything I knew, tried everything there was, doesn't mean that I was able to meet difficult child's needs. And... difficult child knows that his needs went unmet... but a small child has no context in which to understand that you were doing everything possible - just the internal gut feel of needs not being met.</p><p></p><p>I say this not to make you feel guilty or as though you are a bad mother. YOU, as well as your difficult child, were not able to get what you needed from the medical system - whether that be simply because nobody knew back then, right through to outright malpractice. You did everything you could find to do... and maybe it wasn't enough.</p><p></p><p>If your difficult child's early years were so rough, yes, that often carries over. They don't "outgrow" it, but they can often be helped. Try looking into "insecure attachment".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 542393, member: 11791"] It took me a long time to "get" this. But... just because I did everything I knew, tried everything there was, doesn't mean that I was able to meet difficult child's needs. And... difficult child knows that his needs went unmet... but a small child has no context in which to understand that you were doing everything possible - just the internal gut feel of needs not being met. I say this not to make you feel guilty or as though you are a bad mother. YOU, as well as your difficult child, were not able to get what you needed from the medical system - whether that be simply because nobody knew back then, right through to outright malpractice. You did everything you could find to do... and maybe it wasn't enough. If your difficult child's early years were so rough, yes, that often carries over. They don't "outgrow" it, but they can often be helped. Try looking into "insecure attachment". [/QUOTE]
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