I'm sorry your friend is struggling so much with her son. It really sounds like a very difficult situation.
While I don't have advice on the school placement issue -- SRL is right that Martie and Sheila on the Special Education board are the ones who will -- I agree that this boy needs a re-evaluation ASAP. While I understand the parents not wanting to label their child, they need to consider what is in his best interests. That involves knowing exactly what is contributing to his violent behavior so the proper interventions are put into place to meet his needs. In addition to an evaluation by a neurologist, I'd recommend testing by a neuropsychologist. Since it has been 6 years since he was diagnosed with NLVD, it is important to know where he stands at this point.
