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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 157976" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>I'm a little confused as the question was regarding waking up you difficult child but you are talking about grumpiness when going to bed.....</p><p> </p><p>I guess I'll give my opinion on both. You difficult child is only 10, athough I'm not sure what her issues are or what diagnosis she may have. But I would say on the waking thing, it's pretty natural that some folks are morning people (I am) and others are grumps in the morning. It also may have to do with sleep issues. In other words, does she have a hard time going to sleep at night? Does she sleep solidly or fitfully? It could be that she is not getting enough sleep and therefore is still very tired in the morning. It also could be as simple as her not being a morning person.</p><p> </p><p>In regards to bedtime. I don't believe I have ever met or spoken with a parent who has not had a bedtime struggle from time to time. Not knowing what your daughter's issues are, it could be that she is hyperfocusing on something at bedtime and you are pulling her away without warning. It could be that she has bad dreams and doesn't want to go to bed. It could be that she does not want to be alone. It could be that she is just plain onery at night and tired.</p><p> </p><p>What I would suggest to you is working on a quiet and consistant bedtime ritual. Make is something a little fun for her. Make it the same time every school night. Take the time to talk softly with her, perhaps rub her back, read a story together. Have her do her school reading at night out loud to you. Then you have a book that you read together that you can read outloud that will relax her as she lays and listens.</p><p> </p><p>As far as getting her up. I think some folks are just going to be grumpy. Is she taking a medication that could affect her mood in the morning? I know when my son first started taking seroquel he was really hard to wake up in the morning. I would go in 15 minutes early to give him time to get that heavy head feeling under control.</p><p> </p><p>So, while I believe the bedtime and morning struggles are fairly common, you have to decide if you believe difficult child crosses that line. I say as long as she is not breaking any of your house rules, let her grumble. I mean, slamming doors is not allowed in our home so I wouldn't allow that. But if my difficult child wanted to stomp up the stairs and mumble, as long as he went, so be it.</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 157976, member: 805"] I'm a little confused as the question was regarding waking up you difficult child but you are talking about grumpiness when going to bed..... I guess I'll give my opinion on both. You difficult child is only 10, athough I'm not sure what her issues are or what diagnosis she may have. But I would say on the waking thing, it's pretty natural that some folks are morning people (I am) and others are grumps in the morning. It also may have to do with sleep issues. In other words, does she have a hard time going to sleep at night? Does she sleep solidly or fitfully? It could be that she is not getting enough sleep and therefore is still very tired in the morning. It also could be as simple as her not being a morning person. In regards to bedtime. I don't believe I have ever met or spoken with a parent who has not had a bedtime struggle from time to time. Not knowing what your daughter's issues are, it could be that she is hyperfocusing on something at bedtime and you are pulling her away without warning. It could be that she has bad dreams and doesn't want to go to bed. It could be that she does not want to be alone. It could be that she is just plain onery at night and tired. What I would suggest to you is working on a quiet and consistant bedtime ritual. Make is something a little fun for her. Make it the same time every school night. Take the time to talk softly with her, perhaps rub her back, read a story together. Have her do her school reading at night out loud to you. Then you have a book that you read together that you can read outloud that will relax her as she lays and listens. As far as getting her up. I think some folks are just going to be grumpy. Is she taking a medication that could affect her mood in the morning? I know when my son first started taking seroquel he was really hard to wake up in the morning. I would go in 15 minutes early to give him time to get that heavy head feeling under control. So, while I believe the bedtime and morning struggles are fairly common, you have to decide if you believe difficult child crosses that line. I say as long as she is not breaking any of your house rules, let her grumble. I mean, slamming doors is not allowed in our home so I wouldn't allow that. But if my difficult child wanted to stomp up the stairs and mumble, as long as he went, so be it. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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