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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 302190" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>"When she's calm, ask her where these things are coming from and if the reason she likes them is because they are things she's not normally allowed to have, or whether she's trying to emulate the person she took them from. Maybe the person who originally owned the makeup was prettier, funnier, somehow cooler than difficult child. Maybe you could start out by telling her about a time that you wanted to be like a classmate.</p><p></p><p>Finding a way to do it with-o making her go ballistic is hard."--Terry</p><p> </p><p>Terry--</p><p> </p><p>difficult child has been taking things that do not belong to her for a very long time...</p><p> </p><p>We STILL do not know the reasons why. Sometimes it is an item for which she has no earthly use (such as camera memory cards). She once brought home a straightening treatment for ethnic hair--even though she's white and her hair is straight. Mostly though it's candy, gum, makeup and jewelry.</p><p> </p><p>When confronted the item is almost ALWAYS a gift. My friend gave it to me. The boss gave it to me. The neighbor gave it to me. Sometimes, she says she found it. difficult child is also a bully--the "stealing the milk-money' type--so I also suspect that they were gifts that difficult child had demanded from other kids under threat.</p><p> </p><p>I used to try and track down all the rightful owners, but since I never got a straight story from difficult child in the first place--that was always impossible.</p><p> </p><p>These days, we just take it away and tell her "<em>Do not bring home anything that does not belong to you</em>!!"</p><p> </p><p><em>[[[sigh]]]</em></p><p> </p><p>I like the tennis game analogy....I will have to visualize that. It might help me "gear up".</p><p> </p><p>Thanks!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 302190, member: 6546"] "When she's calm, ask her where these things are coming from and if the reason she likes them is because they are things she's not normally allowed to have, or whether she's trying to emulate the person she took them from. Maybe the person who originally owned the makeup was prettier, funnier, somehow cooler than difficult child. Maybe you could start out by telling her about a time that you wanted to be like a classmate. Finding a way to do it with-o making her go ballistic is hard."--Terry Terry-- difficult child has been taking things that do not belong to her for a very long time... We STILL do not know the reasons why. Sometimes it is an item for which she has no earthly use (such as camera memory cards). She once brought home a straightening treatment for ethnic hair--even though she's white and her hair is straight. Mostly though it's candy, gum, makeup and jewelry. When confronted the item is almost ALWAYS a gift. My friend gave it to me. The boss gave it to me. The neighbor gave it to me. Sometimes, she says she found it. difficult child is also a bully--the "stealing the milk-money' type--so I also suspect that they were gifts that difficult child had demanded from other kids under threat. I used to try and track down all the rightful owners, but since I never got a straight story from difficult child in the first place--that was always impossible. These days, we just take it away and tell her "[I]Do not bring home anything that does not belong to you[/I]!!" [I][[[sigh]]][/I] I like the tennis game analogy....I will have to visualize that. It might help me "gear up". Thanks! [/QUOTE]
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