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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 274107" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Janet, I'm just offering my opinion based upon my experience. Nomad doesn't have to take it, but it was more than a knee jerk reaction type opinion. I think it's his wedding and he should decide. He can live with the consequences either way. I'm sure he'll be happier deciding to invite her if it's because he knew it was his choice than if he did it to satisfy someone else's sense of what is right and wrong for him. My guess is he'll invite her, and then it will be his choice, which is how it should be.</p><p></p><p>My eldest sister W was on the outs with my dad when my older sister S got married. My dad wouldn't let W be in S's wedding. S said I couldn't be in the wedding if W couldn't be in it. Dad told her I had to be in it or he wouldn't pay, and W couldn't be in it or he wouldn't pay. We were 20, 18, & 13. I had no idea that those were the circumstances at the time. I have to tell you it cut me to the bone when 25 years and 3 husbands later I heard S tell someone "I didn't even want Witzend in the wedding but Dad made me, and he wouldn't let W be my maid of honor like I wanted." I don't know if I wasn't <em>ever</em> wanted in the wedding party, or if I became a bone of contention because of my dad's position on W. But I'll never forget that, and my dad's ill-intentions tainted everything. In hindsight it's pretty clear that both of my sisters were angry that I was there. Nomad's son will make the right decision in the long run, but it should be his and his bride's to make and people should respect that.</p><p></p><p>My advice is to let him make his own decision. He'll make the right one and he'll know better than to rub the wrong decision in someone else's face years down the road, embarrassing everyon.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 274107, member: 99"] Janet, I'm just offering my opinion based upon my experience. Nomad doesn't have to take it, but it was more than a knee jerk reaction type opinion. I think it's his wedding and he should decide. He can live with the consequences either way. I'm sure he'll be happier deciding to invite her if it's because he knew it was his choice than if he did it to satisfy someone else's sense of what is right and wrong for him. My guess is he'll invite her, and then it will be his choice, which is how it should be. My eldest sister W was on the outs with my dad when my older sister S got married. My dad wouldn't let W be in S's wedding. S said I couldn't be in the wedding if W couldn't be in it. Dad told her I had to be in it or he wouldn't pay, and W couldn't be in it or he wouldn't pay. We were 20, 18, & 13. I had no idea that those were the circumstances at the time. I have to tell you it cut me to the bone when 25 years and 3 husbands later I heard S tell someone "I didn't even want Witzend in the wedding but Dad made me, and he wouldn't let W be my maid of honor like I wanted." I don't know if I wasn't [I]ever[/I] wanted in the wedding party, or if I became a bone of contention because of my dad's position on W. But I'll never forget that, and my dad's ill-intentions tainted everything. In hindsight it's pretty clear that both of my sisters were angry that I was there. Nomad's son will make the right decision in the long run, but it should be his and his bride's to make and people should respect that. My advice is to let him make his own decision. He'll make the right one and he'll know better than to rub the wrong decision in someone else's face years down the road, embarrassing everyon. [/QUOTE]
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