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Wanting to have my own temper tantrum... Everyone else gets to!
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 677049" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I think the phone 'cost' is a great idea. It will ONLY work if you follow through every single time though. </p><p></p><p>The whole matter of getting kids up for school should have ended years ago, in my opinion. My kids all got themselves up from elementary school. Mornings and I HATE each other so after a few yrs of getting up with my kids in the morning, the kids sat me down and told me they woulld handle mornings if I would PLEASE stop getting up every morning. When I woke up feeling good and surprised them with muffins or something, it was appreciated but on my bad days, getting up with them just made them start off in a bad way. </p><p></p><p>So your kids CAN do this, but you have to get out of their way. it is HARD to do though, i know. </p><p></p><p>You might get a LOT of great ideas and support from "Parenting Teens with Love & Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood" by Fay & Cline. Their techniques flat out WORK and MAKE SENSE. I went to a seminar given by Jim Fay Sr several years ago. As he talked about getting your child to do an assigned chore, a young teacher in the crowd exclaimed, "THAT is why you did that!". He was there with other teachers from his school, one of which was his mom. She had used the technique on him some years before when he was a teen - and it worked for him! He was NOT a plant (was a student of my father in law years before) and he just blurted it out in total surprise because it was a real shock when his mom used the technique. </p><p></p><p>I have read many of their books & found them immensely useful. They were the ONLY parenting books that made sense for my huband and I both - and that gave us tools that we could BOTH use. My oldest child HATED them, to the point of throwing them away, because they let us stand together and not get lured off track away from the issue at hand. Now, as an adult, he has told me that they helped him more than any other parenting system or method that we tried (and we tried a TON of different things!).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 677049, member: 1233"] I think the phone 'cost' is a great idea. It will ONLY work if you follow through every single time though. The whole matter of getting kids up for school should have ended years ago, in my opinion. My kids all got themselves up from elementary school. Mornings and I HATE each other so after a few yrs of getting up with my kids in the morning, the kids sat me down and told me they woulld handle mornings if I would PLEASE stop getting up every morning. When I woke up feeling good and surprised them with muffins or something, it was appreciated but on my bad days, getting up with them just made them start off in a bad way. So your kids CAN do this, but you have to get out of their way. it is HARD to do though, i know. You might get a LOT of great ideas and support from "Parenting Teens with Love & Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood" by Fay & Cline. Their techniques flat out WORK and MAKE SENSE. I went to a seminar given by Jim Fay Sr several years ago. As he talked about getting your child to do an assigned chore, a young teacher in the crowd exclaimed, "THAT is why you did that!". He was there with other teachers from his school, one of which was his mom. She had used the technique on him some years before when he was a teen - and it worked for him! He was NOT a plant (was a student of my father in law years before) and he just blurted it out in total surprise because it was a real shock when his mom used the technique. I have read many of their books & found them immensely useful. They were the ONLY parenting books that made sense for my huband and I both - and that gave us tools that we could BOTH use. My oldest child HATED them, to the point of throwing them away, because they let us stand together and not get lured off track away from the issue at hand. Now, as an adult, he has told me that they helped him more than any other parenting system or method that we tried (and we tried a TON of different things!). [/QUOTE]
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